(Closed) Asking carat size…tacky or not??

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It’s tacky. And I wouldn’t answer… You may as well ask “so how much do you have in savings?” 

Post # 48
507 posts
Busy bee

Is it bad that I now want to know the carat size and see a picture of the ring that is causing people to hassle OP? LOL. 

Honestly, I think it is tacky – people who want to will volunteer carat size without questioning. I have had comment on the size of my ring but it was more jockingly (my Brother-In-Law used the word “ginormous” which my ring is not but I think it seemed on the bigger size to him).

Post # 49
1783 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

People ask me the carat size of my ring all of the time.. it’s 2 carats. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all; it doesn’t offend me. I can see how it can come off as materialistic to an extent, but I think it’s a pretty general question to ask to be honest

Post # 50
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I couldn’t care less if someone asks me the carat size. It’s a ring. 

I also find it odd how many people think it’s ‘super tacky’, yet look at all the ring threads on this board, guess what everyone is posting and asking? THE CARAT SIZE. Shocking. So people are cool with strangers on the internet knowing/asking, but if someone in real life asks it’s tacky. I don’t get it. 

And yes, I’ve had girls ask me.. because they’re girls and we like pretty shiny things. And before I was engaged I asked a few friends as well, because I was genuinely curious the size since I was looking myself. Big whoop.

Post # 51
3008 posts
Sugar bee

British reticence would prevent me from talking about anything directly connected with money, including the size of a diamond in a diamond ring.


I would compliment you on your beautiful, sparkly ring.  I wouldn’t ask you about carat size.  I would notice whether you have good taste in jewellery.


I’ve looked up your ring.


Yes it’s beautiful and sparkly and yes you’ve got excellent taste!


Post # 52
6290 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Merinda1994:  Personally I think it’s kind of rude, unless you know the person really well, and are looking at buying a ring yourself. For example, I am REALLY struggling not to ask a girl at work her centre stone size atm, as a friend of mine is going to propose to his girlfriend, and the size and proportions of my colleague’s ring are just exactly what they want. But, while I know her pretty well and we’ve discussed rings at length and are really interested in jewellery, I feel that asking her would be really inappropriate, so, I haven’t, much as it pains me lol.

Post # 53
43 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Merinda1994:  I think it’s awkward. I get embarrassed and lie about my ring- I just say that I don’t know. I have also had a lot of people ask what my Fiance does which is interesting! People hey!?

Post # 54
1384 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Merinda1994:  It’s fine when my girlfriends ask me, though some asked out of insecurity rather than gushing over my engagement with me. But I do find it intrusive when people who don’t know me on a persnal level ask. And they make comments like, “Oh what did you do to get him to buy you this rock?” and “He must really love you!” etc. Someone actually made comments about my ring today and asked to see it closer, which I don’t mind since I’ve known her through classes. She just said it was a spectacular ring and congratulated me, which was a nice change! I hate the cattyness. //end vent lol.

Post # 55
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CurlyCue:  I’ve had people do that too! I was kind of shocked and confused that they would ask that?! 

Post # 56
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’ve only asked one close friend what her carat size was because it was the most beautiful diamond I’d ever seen in person and at the time I was clueless about diamonds (I later asked her what her other 3C’s were once I figured out what those are! She didn’t mind). I always want to ask just to get an idea of what carat size looks like in person but so many people interpret it as rude that I just keep my mouth shut and guess. While some people may ask for sake of competition or sizing up someone’s income, my motivation would purely be to get any idea of what size would be ideal for me.

Post # 58
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Personally, I find it to be very tacky.  I’ve had many people ask me my center stone carat size in a variety of social settings, and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable.  I never answer, either.

Post # 59
1211 posts
Bumble bee

I swear if anyone asks me what I did to get him to buy me my ring I’m just going to say “Well it took a shit ton of blow jobs but I FINALLY got the one I wanted…” then just stand there grinning like an idiot.


Post # 60
3875 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

To me, there’s “Holy crap look at that massive stone, HOW MANY CARATS IS THAT?” and then there’s: *sniff* “Wow…that’s a…nice ring…How many carats is that?” in a snotty way. 

I would find it a little ofputting and I sincerely hope no one asks me when I eventually get a ring…

Post # 61
10 posts

I guess it’s tacky to ask someone who has an obviously small stone how many carats it is, the same way it’d be tacky for someone with a large stone to brag about how many carats it is. But, if you’ve got good finger coverage I don’t see why you would have a problem with someone asking 🙂

@Merinda1994 I saw in another post you listed all of the other qualities of your stone, why is carat size different? In terms of price all of those factors play a large part as well

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