(Closed) Asking FI parents to pay for photo books

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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14481 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldnt ask them to pay for a third book, but that’s just me.  What about asking your photographer for a discount for not buying the parent books through them.  Then get a groupon or something for mixbook or photobook america or one of the slightly better quality sites (blurb I think?  I cant remember, but there are a lot of threads here about photobooks) and buying them yourself.  It’d probably be cheaper than the photogs book even for 3.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@maggiemay0811:  Does your FIs parents expect a profession book also?  What if you just get discount for not getting one then, and get a different set for his parents?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I definitely wouldn’t ask them to pay for it since I consider a parent album to be a gift/thank you.  You could make your own for the third set of parents (it doesn’t sound like his mom and dad hang out just for fun so I doubt they’ll know they received different books).  I know that PurpleUnicorn did her own book and it turned out great but I forgot what program/website she used!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

Do you really need the parent books done by the photographer. Save yourself alot of $$$$. If you get full rights to your photos make the parent books online. Shutterfly is great with hard covers and even spine labling. If your parents are paying alot towards the wedding, get one parent book professionally made, the other two make online.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you need to pay for it through the photographer or like others have suggested make your own for cheaper but it is a gift, you can’t ask someone to pay for their own gift. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

30K budget is a nice wedding and if I was paying that I wouldn’t want a shutterfly book to showcase the pictures of the day, especially since it appears that you went with a quality photographer.  I wouldn’t skimp with a DIY book or a groupon.  Quality doesn’t compare with what your photographer will offer.  I would look to save the money elsewhere since you are over your photography budget, or just suck it up and pay for a third one.  Seems like a small amount to pay IMO to make the parents happy.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you will have to buy the book if they are investing any money at all in the wedding.  It would be tacky to ask them to pay for it.

Post # 11
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We gave our parents photobooks as their “thank you” gifts for helping (a small monetary amount) contribute to the wedding. Could you do that and just chip in the extra money to get the extra photobook from your photographer?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would say if his parents are helping in any way for the wedding, monetary or with time and effort, you should give it as a gift to them. I suppose if they were completely uninvolved I might reconsider my answer, but I think that would be fairly extreme.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@maggiemay0811:  Ok, I’m sorry if this comes out sort of rude, I honestly dont mean it to be…. but… your parents are paying for your entire wedding (including the two books, one of which is a gift back to themselves), and your in laws are paying for the rehersal dinner…. and you cant justify buy a single book when you arent putting anything into the whole wedding?  Rehearsal Dinner may not be cheap either depending on where and how many people. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My ILs didn’t pay a ton toward the wedding compared to my parents, but I gave them a photobook (we paid extra, my parents are divorced) because they are the parents of the man I fell in love with, and they did the rehearsal and bought my bouquet.

Honestly, I would cut back on centerpieces or something to afford the book.   It would be worth doing that than starting your marriage out with hurt feelings from your new ILs.  It sounds like they are paying the traditional things for parents of the groom and to exclude them because of that will likely hurt your FH too.

 

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