(Closed) Bridal Shower drama. Asking for a friend…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
992 posts
Busy bee

DrunkInLove:  Personally, I’m of the opinion that a bridal shower isn’t a requirement, so a bride should NEVER try and force her BM’s into throwing her one….right off the bat, I feel bad for your friend that was forced into this by the bride when it obviously something she didn’t want to do.

That said, since she did accept the responsibility (even if it was less-than-willingly), unless others offer to help, I don’t think that the other BM’s should be coerced into footing the bill if it isn’t something they are willing to do. She would be within her rights to ask, but if they decline, it would be wrong of her to push it.

If it were me, I’d do my best to make it a cost-effective affair…you don’t have to spend a fortune to make a bridal shower a fun gathering…If the BMs choose not to pitch in with $$, ask if they would each be willing to bring food/desert/drinks, etc.

Post # 3
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why doesn’t she ask the brides mother to chip in? 

Post # 4
3586 posts
Sugar bee

Shouldn’t the brides mom be hosting this or some sort of close family?  


Post # 5
824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It is awkward to ask for financial help. My shower was paid for by my sister/MOH and my parents. Then my friend/BM offered to contribute and my sister was thrilled! Rightfully, my SIL bridesmaid should have contributed, but my sister did not dare ask her. I disagreed but can see her point in that it is awkward to ask. And no I do not think it should fall on the bride’s mother.

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