Post # 1
Is there a correct way to get addresses for invitations/save the dates? There’s about 50-60 people on our guest list that aren’t in the phonebook/directory/internet. Is it appropriate to ask them in a message over Facebook? Our family has a group on Facebook that I considered posting for everyone to send me their address, is that tacky? I’m just not sure how to go about this.
Post # 3
I sent people messages on facebook, I think it’s fine. If you do the group thing just make sure everyone is invited.
Post # 4
i don’t think its tacky. its a new age of technology, so things are done differently than they were in the past.
Post # 5
I’m pretty into etiquette, but with my friends, I definitely asked for addresses via text and FB.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t post it on yout wall ehat if people who aren’t invited send their address AWKWARD!! LOL I’d just message them individually. With fi family I had his mom help me get them. Ended making like 15 phone calls to people I didn’t know super well, luckily I’m a chatty kathy lol.
Post # 7
Thank you! I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t breaking some sort of rule lol All extended family is invited so that wouldn’t be a problem, but I might just message the head of households so I don’t get 20 emails from each person living there lol Thanks!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
I just sent everyone individual messages asking for their address and they happily sent them back. Be careful though, asking for their address is a pretty definite “I’m going to invite you to the wedding” even if you don’t mean it to be.
Post # 9
I looked up everyone on the internet, but those I couldn’t find I just emailed. Maybe its not proper etiquette, but how else are you supposed to get them?!
Post # 10
I asked for address via FB and text message! I don’t think there is anything wrong with it!
Post # 11
@cheebs: YEP. This has happened to me twice, when people asked for my address and then didn’t invite me to the wedding. It really sucks to get your hopes up and then not be invited. 🙁
Post # 12
I echo the PPs who suggest private messages. A friend recently did a blanket message to about 15-20 of us asking for addresses. Folks didn’t directly message her back, but replied to the open thread. I was getting notifications of strangers’ addresses for days. It was strange, to say the least.
Post # 13
I gathered them at family get togethers that we had, as well as asking via FB and text.
Post # 14
Facebook, face to face, texting, and email were how we asked! It wasn’t bad, all of the responses were quick 🙂
Post # 15
@MrsN14: I would also check with any relatives that might have been recently married or had send out Christmas cards. We got loads of addresses from my DH’s cousins that got married within the past year or so. Very helpful!
Post # 16
@MrsN14: ask them however and whenever you can. we did text/phone/email/facebook/smoke signals… whatever works.