Post # 1
When I moved out of my parents house, they stored a few pieces of furniture for me that I couldn’t fit in my new place. I’m about to move and feel weird about asking for the pieces back… primarily because they’ve been integrated into the household.
Has anyone dealt with anything like this before and/or how did it turn out?
Was it a big deal when you asked for your things back? Or did you just leave it be?
Post # 3
@oracle: how long ago did you leave the furniture at their house?
Post # 4
I didn’t leave furniture, but I had a few decorations that I had left behind because I had no room for them. When I moved to a bigger place, I took some of them back, and left others.
Post # 5
its your parents, i think theyd be more understanding than a roomate. just ask, all they can say is no 🙂 good luck
Post # 6
How long did you keep it there? Do you actually want/need it, or just integrated it for the time being so that it wasnt out of place while it was being stored?
I’d ask about it. If the plan wasnt for them to keep it, they probably still expect you to take it back at some point.
Post # 7
I’m very open with my parents. My mom and I are very close and me and my stepdad are like best friends, so I have no problem asking them for/about anything, lol. I’d ask for it back. I know some people aren’t as ‘chummy’ with their ‘rents though so it kind of just depends on your guys’ relationship
Post # 8
@oracle: It is your parents – they will want to help you. They won’t want you to buy new stuff when you already bought *old* stuff. That makes no sense and isn’t fair. As long as the intention was to “store” it at their house and you weren’t “giving” it to them, I see no problem with this.
Actually, it reminds me of something. Fiance stored something as his mother’s house that she decided to start using (hence the integrating into the household). He made a comment about it and said she agreed to store it, not use it. She had no problem giving it back – at least that she expressed.
Post # 9
Definitely ask, who knows they might have integrated it because they didn’t want it to get lost in storage and they have been waiting for you to take it back. Or maybe they fell in love with them and hope to keep them and they can tell you so.
Post # 10
You should ask. What is it?
I left a bookcase (filled with my books) at my parents for about 2.5 years. They had it out in one of the rooms. I was actually content on leaving it there until I bought a house but my mom told me she wanted me to take it back. They had most of their floors re-done and I think she was ready for it to be gone.
Post # 11
It’s been there for 6 years. I don’t think I’d get a ‘no, you can’t have it’ response… but more of a ‘sad.. I really loved using it, it reminded me of you’ type response. Plus, I know there wouldn’t be a replacement of said items…. so the room (master bedroom) would have a visible void.
ETA: And, yes – the understanding (at least on my part) was the only reason I didn’t take it with the inital room is because I had no place to put it. I’m fairly sure that was understood… although, I’m kind of surprised that when this new move was mentioned, it wasn’t brought up (meaning, I think my asking will come as a surprise/shock/disappointement).
Also – yes, I do need the pieces at the new place. I’m going from a place that had a ton of built in storage pieces to a place with virtually none.
Post # 12
Assuming the agreement from the beginning was for them to store it (versus you just giving it to them), I’d ask for them back. If that was the plan all along, I don’t see an issue.
Post # 13
I would probably let it go after six years unless it’s something you really want back.
Post # 14
Since it is your parents I would bring it up. A roommate or friend, no.
Post # 15
Just ask! (Even a roommate or friend.) The worst thing isn’t even that they ask to keep it – the worst is that they want it gone, but you don’t take it back! My sister moved a whole house worth of stuff into my parents house and of course they integrated it so it wouldn’t seem quite like “clutter” but they really wanted it gone. When I moved in with Darling Husband, I gave my parents my tv on “long term loan” until we have a place with a room for a second tv (we do not want it in the bedroom, my parents needed a new tv). I was reluctant to ask for it back from them when we thought we were buying a place but it turns out that they were planning on returning it as agreed and had already started looking for a replacement one.
Post # 16
Since it’s your parents, I’d just ask them if you could take that back.