(Closed) Asking for Gift Cards on Wedding Website Instead of Registering?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am using Newlywish.com for my registry and I have nothing but amazing things to say about it. They are both a nontraditional and a traditional registry all-in-one. It’s NYC based, and has all local stores and activities, events, non-chain stores, and museum memberships for you to register for. 

The customer service has been outstanding; I saw some charges I wanted in a local store in my neighborhood, emailed them asking about how a store gets on their registry, and within two days they were on there. Like I said—amazing. 

They are NYC based, so I think it was cerated for the apartment/already living together/I have all the “things” I need/can fit in my place lifestyle. I’d definitely check it out, if I were you and since they are so great on replying, maybe you could ask to leave your date/location private…they seem super accommodating! 

 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can’t you enter a fake date and location for your wedding? Are you having a shower? Perhaps use that date instead, or an anniversary, or whatever you’d like. I don’t see how that would affect you registering or not. Also, I’ve never seen a registry that lists a specific location, only state from what I’ve seen.

Besides that, I don’t really think there’s a polite way to ask for cash/GCs on a wedding website. And, I agree with your mom that some people may prefer physical gifts. Maybe do a small registry at BB&B. Their return policy is easy if you change your mind about gifts, it will appease the guests who want to buy physical gifts, and the size of the registry will let people know that you’d prefer cash.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s a little bit rude to ask for money, BUT, you can spread via word of mouth that you aren’t registering but are saving up for <whatever> and people will be more likely to give monetary gifts.  It’s a gentler hint than “Hey, give us a gift card :)”

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The whole point of a bridal shower is to “shower” the bride with gifts she will need to start her life as a wife.  Obviously times have changed!  It’s ok to register one time and refer people to that registry for both the shower and the wedding, as they are often fairly close together.  *(How it is not rude to refer people to a registry but it is rude to ask for money is completely beyond my comprehension, but that’s just how it is)*

What’s rude is EXPECTING people to get you a gift, mentioning gifts on invitations, or asking for cash directly.  I don’t think you’re doing any of those things, but directly asking for gift cards kind of flirts with the idea that you are asking for cash… know what I mean?

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think anyone would have a problem with that 🙂  Good idea!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@DaneLady:  I agree with everything you said!

Post # 12
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4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I just checked two friend’s registries from Crate & Barrel and Bed Bath & Beyond, and it just lists the state that gifts are shipping to, not the location (said Virginia, where they live, but their wedding was in Maryland.) They still have the dates, though- I don’t think you’ll be able to get away from that on any of the major registry lists. Amazon wish list is also a great idea.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Amazon is a good idea, and you can use their universal add button to put gift cards on there. My amazon wish list (for holidays, Birthdays, etc) has a spot for C&B gift cards).

Post # 14
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882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Dang! So sorry Newlywish couldn’t accommodate you. It seems like such a small thing and crazy that no one can do it. I totally get what you feel about putting a wrong date. Can you maybe put your same day wayyyyyyyyyy in the future?

I was also going to suggest to do an Amazon Wish List.

 FYI-BB&B gives cash back for returned items…

Post # 15
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

true that BBB gives cash back but then the shipping money all goes to waste, plus then your friends/family don’t have the fun of being part of what you really want (sort of like a bait and switch). have you heard of depositagift.com ? it’s an awesome site that lets you register for cash towards anything: honeymoon, home down payment, activities, splitting up big ticket things like tvs and furniture. amazing customer service and really easy to use interface. based on what you’re asking, i’d check it out.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you thought of using a cash gift registry site? There are lots of options out there to ask for cash tastefully. We’re using Deposit a Gift and it’s been awesome – put literally anything you can think of on it and your friends feel like they’re giving something special, but you’ll end up with straight cash. As long as you do it right, it won’t be tacky at all.

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