(Closed) ASKING for Huge Ring? Really?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 137
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@flyinpig3: nah it doesnt make her better. i think she is just pissed off that she didnt get the ring she wanted, and shes trying to justify it by trying to make other people feel bad. not workin here. i  love my ring hehe

Yeah, the more she posts, the more it is starting to sound like exactly this. Plus she apparently likes to stir up drama, judging by some of her past posts. Pretty sure this was nothing but a purposeful attempt at starting a dramarama megathread.

Stop feeding the troll!

Post # 139
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Lisa- You are directing this at ALL people who ask for a certain size. By YOUR standards, I DID ask for a certain size. So I am trying to make you understand that it is not up to LISA to judge how other people go about choosing an engagement ring.

 

You need to open your mind a little and realize that not everyone lives in lisa-land

Post # 141
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think it’s time…

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Post # 142
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Thank you Hoya. I was about to add another comment and then realized that this entire post has been a rude, nonsensical waste of time and energy on someone who just enjoys looking at her own words of argument on this site.

Post # 143
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011 - The Inn at Longshore

I know every relationship is different, but personally, my fiance pretty much knows every thought in my head. That’s just how our relationship is. For me to withhold something out of politeness or etiquette would be completely uncharacteristic of our everyday interactions. When we talked about getting engaged, we inevitably talked about the ring, and we talked about every aspect of it because he wanted to get me something I loved. Does it take some of the romance away? Sure. But that’s our relationship — we don’t do subtle hints or veiled references. He’s my best friend in the whole world — of COURSE he knew what size diamond I wanted? Doesn’t YOUR best friend know that kind of thing about you?

Post # 145
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

My head is going to explode! This thread is totalling making me LOL now. Is this for real? Are there really people out there that believe these things or is the OP just trolling, because this is a little crazy! I mean, just asking for a particular carat is wrong? WHAT?! Are you serious?

All I can say about this is WOW and that I’m so glad that I’m in a relationship where we can discuss everything, yes, even carats! I’m going to give Mr. Rainbow a big ol’ kiss as soon as he walks in the door!

Moral of the story: Blanket judgements/assumptions are ridiculous. Every couple is different. Suck it up and deal with it. End of story.

P.S. I’m totally starting to agree with those who are thinking it’s just a big case of “sour grapes”…

Post # 146
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yikes, there seems to be alot of back and forth “disagreements” going on today. I’m relatively new here, umm is it always like this?? I believe that everyone’s situation/relationship/finances/etc is completely 100% different so to group all women who ask for a certain size together together might not be fair. I have been with my SO for 8 years, living together for 7 and we have two children together. I am a stay at home mom. We have a joint account, and I know exactly how much money comes in each month and how much we spend on bills etc. That being said, I have waited 8 years for a ring, for various reasons. And yes, considering I do want 1carat, and I know that our ring budget can cover that, I have voiced my opinion to him on size. And I don’t think thats inappropriate at all. And if you have a problem with that, well thats exactly what that is. YOUR problem. Not mine, and certainly not my SO’s because he WANTS to buy me whatever ring I so choose as I have been waiting for it a long time and it has to sit on MY finger for the rest of my life.

Post # 147
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@rainbow:

yea girl. Lets get off this post and make our own- im sick of giving it any more attention but i SO agree with all the other ladies on the page, such as urself

Post # 148
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@Bostonsmom:

Amen. Apparently we are all supposed to be from the 1930s, have no opinion, and just keep our mouths shut and be grateful for what we get. screw that

Post # 149
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

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@Bostonsmom: Welcome! I promise it’s not usually like this.

I generally avoid topics like this all together, but in the beginning it seemed like the OP really wanted opinions. However, it turned out that she just wanted to state hers and tear other people down who disagree. Hence the downward spiral of this thread. Now, if everyone was as rational and non-judgmental as you, threads would never end up like this. 😉

So, it happens, but it’s not all that common. There’s generally 100 positive threads for every 1 negative one. Pretty good ratio, if you ask me. 🙂

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@lisa105: So what, exactly, do you find classless about these ladies? The fact that they’re discuss ring size with their FI? If so, how does that reflect ones level of class at all? Oh, right… it doesn’t. You just don’t agree with it, so you’re going for personal attacks because you, from what I’ve seen in this thread, have shown yourself incapable of having an adult conversation without getting worked up.

Also, who has said that they are ungrateful? Last time I checked… no one.

Post # 150
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m going to out on a limb and make the crazy suggestion that the only wrong thing to do is the one you know will hurt your SO’s feelings.

Post # 151
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

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@Bostonsmom: Welcome to the Bee. I promise it is not usually like this.

I have to admit ladies, I have been following this thread all day. It has been quite ammusing and helped me pass the boring day at work.

Lisa, I have to say, I think you are a little worked up at the moment. I don’t think you should take this so seriously. Who cares what other people do in their own relationships? It does not affect you in any way shape or form. So, some ladies want big rings, some want small, some are vocal, others are not. Who cares? Seriously

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