(Closed) ASKING for Huge Ring? Really?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 262
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

What seems impolite to ask for in a ring varies with the couple’s age and financial status.  A low-graded smaller stone seemed fine for me to ask for when my husband was a medical student.  If he had already been out of residency and in a surgical practice when we got married, a well-graded larger stone wouldn’t have been crazy to ask for.

And if he wasn’t/isn’t willing to spend his money on what I want, I’d be fine with that.  There’s no reason he should have to buy me things I want just because he’s the boy.  He should be able to spend his hard-earned money on himself first, and the same for mine for me.  And people should be able to spend their own money on whatever expensive, unnecessary things they want without getting sass.

I think it only rises to the level of inconsiderate when you don’t thing long and hard about your partner’s salary and his other plans for his money before asking, or if you nag when your partner doesn’t want to buy it.  This goes for any gift request by either partner.

Post # 263
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869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@HoyaLawya2010: I posted it originally I believe. lol. As long as someone else can use it I don’t mind. Here’s another one for the books!

 

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Post # 264
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s too bad this thread got so out of hand…… I really agree with Loribeth, we all love our significant others for various reasons and some guys love flashy glamorous girls with expensive fashion tastes and some guys love more simplistic girls – to each their own!!!! As long as everyone is happy with what they have – who cares!

You are all going to laugh at me for this one – I actually have no idea what size my ring is or anything about it lol. I have the paper thingy somewhere with the information on it – but the truth is I honestly don’t know and never cared or thought to look – I am so happy that he picked it out. He was super excited. He knew I wanted a simple yellow gold ring with one diamond in the middle (a smaller diamond – although he bought a big bigger then I planned)

 

YAY to everyones ring but more importantly the awesome guys who try so hard to pick out the perfect ring for their significant other!

Post # 265
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@lisa105:

Nah, I think you need to hear the truth about your very sad attempt to seem holier than thou.

Post # 267
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

im not defensive darling. I have never once defended myself- I am letting you know your opinion is insulting to many people- considering how many women on here think your thread is completely bogus

Post # 268
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

its totally inappropriate to ASK and expect it as well as your intentions of why you want a big rock, but i think if he asks and you honestly say what you want then i dont think there’s anything wrong with that. like what miss rainbow said, communication is key.

my fiance asked me what i wanted and i had told honestly that being in the health industry and working with a lot of patients hands on i didnt want a big ring but wanted at least a 1 (bc my friend told me in her culture a whole number symbolizes that the couple is a complete whole), but in 5-10 yrs when/if i become a mother or administrator and i dont need to use my hands a lot then i may want a 1.5 and he understood and was down for it. we also didnt skimp out on the other 4C’s bc they were equally just as important, if i had settled for moderate ranges of the other 4C’s i could have easily gotten a 2+cwt  and people could easily notice how big my rock is but not necessarily the fire that diamonds can potentially have without the imperfections.

he got me a 1.01 bc he personally wanted to give me more than what i asked 🙂

Post # 269
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Well, sorry ladies but this thread has (predictably) dissolved into personal attacks without regard to the topic.  I have better things to do than sit here babysitting it and deleting comments.  This topic is closed.

Post # 276
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

My fiancé wanted me to pick the ring, and even though I asked for a 1.5 carat, which is not huge for my friends and family, I chipped in on it because I do realize that it’s expensive.  Just because a woman wants a bigger diamond does NOT mean she’s a bad person.  

Post # 270
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742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

There was a lady I used to work with who stated plain as day, “I’ll never marry any man who doesn’t offer me at least a 2 carat ring.”

She’s still single. 😐

I think it’s different if your fiance can afford and offers to buy a bigger stone, but to demand something larger is a rather ugly thing to do.

Post # 271
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1296 posts
Bumble bee

this post is 5 yrs old… I don’t see this going in a positive direction, which is what happened the first time around….. just sayin’…. 😉

Post # 272
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1551 posts
Bumble bee

I realize that this is an old thread, but I’ll comment anyway. By the time a guy is ready to marry a girl, he should know if she’s the type of person who places importance on the size of a rock, so hopefully it wouldn’t be a big surprise. 

I personally care more about sentimental value than a price tag. I love my ring, which is under 1 carat, and I would never “upgrade” it because that would just ruin the sentimental value for me.

Post # 273
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Wannabee

Sometimes the bigger the ring the shorter the marriage! I would rather have a new house and a smaller ring.

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lisa105:  

Post # 274
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520 posts
Busy bee

Holy ghost thread! Haha

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