Post # 1
My fiancee and I already live together and have a house full. We need to do our registry but we really dont need anything. He wants to put monetary gifts only on our registry but I dont feel comfortable with that at all. Should we not do a registry or just be greatful for whatever we get?
Post # 3
I think you should still do a traditional registry. Maybe you want to update your china/everyday dishes, replace some old towels… there are always things you could use.
Asking for money is incredibly tacky and you definitely should not do that.
Post # 4
I agree with you that it’s not a good idea to put monetary gifts only, if I were a guest I’d be put off by that. Some people will really want to buy you something, and if you dont’ tell them what to buy they;ll just guess and you could end up with some pretty weird stuff. I would put together a small registry, and through word of mouth (so tell your parents because people will ask them) that you have put together a small registry at X but they know you are trying to save up money for the house/honeymoon/whatever so that would also be very appreciated. Something like that.
Post # 5
I was in the same position as you and I did not do a registry. If people asked where we were registered, I would just say “we already have 2 of everything for our house, so we really do not need anything new.” Most people got the hint. We received 95% monetary gifts and returned all but 1 of the physical gifts we received.
However, I also insisted that no one throw me a shower because the point of a shower is to be “showered” with gifts for the home, and since I did not want/need anything for the home, I didn’t think it was appropriate.
I would NOT spell out “monetary gifts only” on an invitation. I think that’s inappropriate as well.
Post # 6
What about honeymoon registry? Or have you and SO got that one paid already?
My hubby’s boss had honeymoon registry, and it sounded so much fun. Parasailing diving etc
Post # 7
Although I agree that you should not put monetary gifts on there, there are such things as honeymoon registries where givers can give money to assigned things (i.e. Dinner at a fancy restaurant, tickets to a show, etc.). My family and friends loved this idea. Essentially they were giving me money, but it felt like it had some value to it!
We used Honeyfund for it, loved it!
Post # 8
Thanks so much you guys, putting monetary gifts only was not a option…. but the honeymoon registry sounds like such a great idea.
Post # 9
We didn’t mention anything on our invitations, but we did put on our website a nice poem that we wanted money – we’ve lived together for over 2 years already. When anyone asked we said we prefered a monetary gift (especially since we had a destination wedding… couldn’t bring a ton of gifts back). Everyone was great and gave money or gift cards.
We attended other weddings that asked for cash in the invitation and we were never put off by it. We always thought it made life easier for us than having to go gift shopping 🙂