Strictly from an Etiquette point of view…
IT IS ALWAYS INAPPROPRIATE TO MENTION GIFTS
Folks are supposed to come to your Wedding to celebrate with you… not necessarily bring Gifts (believe it or not)
As the old saying goes… “Your presence is present enough”
So gifts (or NO GIFTS) should never ever be mentioned.
If you are hoping for primarily Gifts that are cash… then it is best if you don’t Register… or do so for a small number of items
Traditionally, word of mouth is how folks get info out about what the Bride & Groom need / want
So make sure your immediate Families and Bridal Party know your wishes … “They are registered at Macy’s but are also focussed on saving for a house”
In that way… folks can take a cue from what they are told (the CHOICE is always for the Guest to make… Gift OR No Gift… Wrapped Gift OR Cash / Cheque
In the modern world… Wedding Websites are a great way to get out the news to your Guests on things that once upon a time were only discussed verbally… Driving Directions – Hotel Suggestions – Registry Info – Other Activities / Intinerary etc
Hope this helps,
PS… The upside to using the Rules of Etiquette / Good Manners (be you the Guest or the Host) is you don’t run the risk of offending anyone (WHY anyone would choose to do that is BEYOND me). Because if you don’t follow the accepted Rules and do offend someone you ultimately loose out (someone might not come, won’t bring a gift etc). Just not worth it in my opinion (and for what… to prove some ridiculous point…. lol).
Personally, I’d rather have respectful Aunt Martha & Uncle Ted come and bring me the $ 100 gift but didn’t mix & mingle a lot with me and my Hubby… than hang with my bud Sue who didn’t RSVP, showed up anyhow, brought her uninvited Boyfriend or Best Friend, drank all my booze and didn’t give me a gift. Aunt Martha & Ted were classy and didn’t cost me a lot of money or pain… Sue and Tom cost me more than double what I had planned for (her per head cost). And in the end she barely remembers much anyhow and her Boyfriend or Best Friend got super drunk and the Bartenders threatened to remove him from the scene (someone mentioned they last saw him outside the venue looking very green)
When it comes to Weddings I think things should always be more top-drawer… and more respectful. The B&G or Hosts, shouldn’t have to deal with high-school antics… people should be able to have a good time and still maintain some decorum / manners etc.
It is the right thing to do by a couple, so that they have an enjoyable day… and no bad memories to look back on.