(Closed) Asking for money instead of gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@lizmeldaus:  You don’t. You can try not setting up a registry in hopes that they’ll get the hint, but in my experience, making demands about the nature of a gift is impossible to do with tact.

Post # 4
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@lizmeldaus:  Word of mouth, when someone specifically asks you. 

Guest: “Where are you registered?”

You: We registered for a few things at X store, but are also saving up for a house (or whatever).

I wouldn’t indicate that you want to use it to pay for the wedding, but that may just be me.

Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think word of mouth is generally a good way. Usually people will ask parents or other family members what to get as a wedding present, and they can let people know to gift money rather than items.

You can also include a card with the invitation stating that you’d prefer money (some people think it’s rude to include info on gifts with the invitation, but it’s normal where I come from!).

Post # 6
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

This is also what I wanted to do and was curious about the same thing. I wanted to do something like cutely-named jugs/vases/boxes/what-have-you that shows they are contributing to the honeymoon/wedding/house/etc.; but, I think that might be tacky if not done in the right way (and how do you indicate that to others)? Like many have said, I guess word-of-mouth is the best way to do it …

Post # 7
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We put a wishing well poem card in our invitations. You will find plenty of nice ones online.

Post # 8
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@miss-stacie-2013:  I love this idea! I’ve never heard of it but I looked it up and I found some really nice ones. I’m definately using this idea because we’re getting married in my country but then moving to my FI’s country so I dont want gifts that I have to ship. I have enough stuff of my own I need to carry.

Post # 10
16 posts

I have seen people make small registries and then make a note on their wedding websites to why it so small. Saying that they already own a lot of home things to hint at giving $$. I had one friend flat out say cash only but that was because the couple was moving from the US to Korea three weeks after the wedding and weren’t bringing much with them.

Post # 11
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are there any specific things you need to buy in the future? If so, is it possible to register for gift cards?


I might be moving to Korea after the wedding also! So I’m having a difficult time with the registry.

Post # 12
13 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I usually don’t think it is appropriate to ask for cash (or any gifts for that matter).  If you would prefer money over other types of gifts I would 1. not do a registry and 2. make sure that someone like parents and bridal party could spread the word if asked. 

Post # 13
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

i would say don’t have a bridal shower if you’d rather have money than gifts.. My cousin printed on her bridal shower invitations that she didnt want gifts and preferred money… and it was really weird. There was obviously no gift giving or gift opening.. so it was a pointless bridal shower.

As for your wedding, people USUALLY gift money to the bride and groom, but I don’t think there’s any “polite” way for you to tell your gifts to only gift money…

Post # 14
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

There is a website where you can set up a moneypot. Ppl use them for honeymoons most of the time.

 Find a classy way to sub the registry info with the website.

Post # 15
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could also register for something like Target and add giftcards, then you can use the GCs to buy TP and save your money.


Post # 16
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Almost all registries have the ‘gift card’ option built in already, so you don’t need to register for them.

Honestly, people know you want money.  That’s hands down the most common gift given at weddings.  You don’t need to explicitly state anything about it on your web site or invitations.  Just casually mention to the family gossips that you’re saving for a house, and people will get the hint.

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