(Closed) Asking for Money with the invitation :-/

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
4690 posts
Honey bee

The only proper way to say anything about money instead of gifts is by word of mouth, and even that has to be done tastefully (by telling the people close to you to spread it around, so it doesn’t come directly from you two).

It’s generally considered very rude to put something like that on the invite. 

Post # 4
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@mepayne:  +1

You never write anything about gifts ON the invite.

Post # 5
28 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

Don’t put anything on the invite or with the invites about gifts/money. Also, do not send your invites out until March, at the earliest.

Post # 6
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

not much you can do, just hope that people will give you money based on your long time together. never mention “gifts” on any invites…

my husband and I are both older, own 4 homes, and didn’t really need much.  We got lots of cash, gift cards and gift certificates for restaurants, and specialty wine and beer..


Post # 7
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Elldes:  Yup, word of mouth is the only way to go. You’ll put people off by including a request for cash.

Post # 8
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Aside from not registering and letting a few close friends know to spread the word, I think your hands are tied.

Post # 10
4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Elldes:  People are not going to like this. Don’t mention anything about gifts at all. I think we all WANT money, but people are going to give what they’re going to give. If people ask what you want, then you can tell them.

Post # 11
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Don’t do it!! Just don’t register for gifts. When people ask where you’re registered, you can say “we chose not to register” and they will most likely translate that into “we’d prefer cash” or they’ll buy a gift that they chose personally, and that’s cool, too.

Post # 13
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

@Elldes:  No no no. Go with your gut, its right. Just dont register and when people ask your family and friends have them explain that you have eveything you want but would love help paying for your honeymoon.

Post # 14
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

OMG. Do not do that!! It’s considered “rude” to request gifts or discuss them in any way shape or form on the invitation. You can do a honeyfund as a registry and its a “cash registry”

Post # 15
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Elldes:  I know a couple of people that do this and I don’t find it being rude. People have there own opinon….blah, blah, blah and I’m actually doing to for my vow renewal. You can go look up poems to put in the invite. Just google wishing well poems. I actually asked some of my family members would the find it rude and they said no. I say do what you want if they find it rude then they don’t have to give anything.

Post # 16
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

BTW……someone please tell me why it’s rude to ask for gifts. Where is that stated? Why do gift registries? Undecided

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