Asking for money/giftcards

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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6827 posts
Busy Beekeeper

No registry. If people ask where youre registered/what you want: “Oh we arent registered, we’re just saving up for X” and change the subject. Most guests will bring cash/cheque if you arent registered.

Post # 3
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9733 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Just don’t do a registry people will get the hint.

We moved 9 hours away 1 day after getting back from our honeymoon and only had so much space for stuff. We made a super tiny registry for a few things we really wanted and almost everyone gave money or gift cards. You really do not need to ask.

Post # 4
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1298 posts
Bumble bee

Don’t register. People know cash is a good wedding gift and those who don’t will get the hint with no registry.

Post # 5
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12216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

No, there is no decent way to ask for money or gift cards. It is perfectly fine not to register. Perhaps some guests will give checks on their own. Contrary to popular belief, it is not rude NOT to register. It only means you aren’t thinking of gifts at all, which is traditionally the appropriate attitude. 

If people bring gifts anyway, you might have to ship them or you might have to take a separate trip. Your most considerate guests will sent gifts ahead of time. But no, you can’t dictate anything to do with gifts since there is supposedly no entitlement or expectation on your end. 

Post # 6
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My husband and I didn’t register anywhere, and a majority of our guests just gave us money or gift cards. It isn’t necessary to specify it. I think most guests usually end up giving money anyway. It’s quick and convenient. 

Post # 8
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12216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Another possibility, if people buy from a store that is local to both you and your hometown is to return gifts after the wedding and have them shipped or reserved for pickup at a store closer to you. 

Post # 9
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1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

No, there is no polite way to ask for cash but I would have no registry and if people ask you say we’re not registered but we’re saving up for X

Post # 10
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3382 posts
Sugar bee

Most people sent gifts to our home (free service with most registries). We only received one wrapped gift at the wedding. The rest of the gifts we received at the wedding were cash and checks.

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