(Closed) Asking girls to be bridesmaids?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I was just looking at some of the other posts on this, you could somehow incorporate an aspect of London into it? Like maybe a cookie in the shape of Big Ben or a little tourist souveneir (sp?) statue of the bridge or something along with a note saying why you want them in your wedding…Or maybe a Cadbury chocolate bar with a personalized label? hmmmmmm….good luck!

Post # 4
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

There are some really cute cards out there that I WISH I took advantage of! Check out my blog (just posted about thecute cards!). jessicalynnwrites.blogspot.com

Post # 5
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I sent all of my BMs a poem to officially ask them in a card I made.  They mostly all live in another city so I didn’t want to spend a fortune sending flowers or a large amount for shipping.  They all loved the card!  Here is the poem:

The day, the dress
The bride, the groom
The joy, the tears
Will all come so soon

Professing true love
To my husband-to-be
With family and friends
All watching me

I hope the sun will
Be shining down,
Keep your fingers crossed
That I’ll fit in my gown…

But there’s just one more thing
that there needs to be…
and that’s to have you
Standing with me!

Will you be my bridesmaid?

Post # 6
84 posts
Worker bee

http://www.modernluxuri.com has a keepsake jewlery collection that has "bridesmaid-specific" necklaces, etc. Mailing one of these would be inexpensive (as they would not weigh much) and would be a cute way to ask! Comes on a nice little card that tells what the Keepsake is.

Post # 7
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was just getting ready to ask this question myself! Great ideas!!

Post # 8
35 posts
  • Wedding: March 2010


I love the idea of incorporating London icons in your "Will you be my Bridesmaid?" cards! I made mini-scrapbooks that were lightweight and would be easy to mail. I made them with a "Past, present, future" theme, focusing on the different stages of our relationship.

You can see pictures here: http://veiltales.wordpress.com/2009/05/07/diy-project-will-you-be-my-bridesmaid/

Best of luck!

Post # 9
469 posts
Helper bee

Hello fellow Cleveland bride! I am getting married September of next year! I haven’t asked my Bridesmaid or Best Man officially yet either and I’m trying to figure out how!

Post # 10
15 posts

Hi there! 

I got really emotional considering how to ask my bridesmaids, since there aren’t many of them (four inc MOH) and since I’m an only child, these girls are like sisters to me!!


I say a personal card and a lovely hand picked bouquet and vase is a good option that you can control the price…also, if you have a few remote bridesmaids, I recommend the Vera Wang collection on FTP for a wedding theme look and feel. 

 For the Maid/Matron of Honor or a special maid, collect photos of just you and her and put it together like a scrapbook, beginning with ‘oh what a ride it’s been…" and ending on the final page with ‘will you be my MOH/ etc and a little personal note.


Good luck! 

Post # 11
41 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

My BMs are spread throughout the country, so instead of a phone call I wanted to do something personal and a little quirky–like me! Here’s how it went:

1. Unsuspecting bridesmaid-to-be receives an ambiguous brown box in the mail (or at her doorstep if local)

2. She opens the box to find a note atop green confetti & filler. The note reads: 

Dear (name):

This is a test. In this box you will find a puzzle. If you are able to solve the puzzle, an exciting adventure awaits. If you are unable to solve the puzzle, well, then nevermind. BEST OF LUCK!!!


  1. Inside the box are 6 clues; each represents a word
  2. Put the clues together to form a phrase
  3. The completed phrase will be a question


Once you solve the puzzle to complete the question, if you choose to acceptthis mission…

  1. Take a photo of yourself with clues #5 & 6
  2. Text or email the photo to me to confirm your acceptance of thismission
  3. Save the date for August 15, 2009!!

What was inside the boxes, you ask? A picture of Will Ferrell as Ron Burgundy. A cotton-ball covered piece of card stock in the shape of a lamb (think kindergarten craft time). A tin of Burt’s Bees lip balm. A picture of me. A handmade veil (a hotglue creation of a child’s headband and layers of tulle. A white feather duster.


It was a hit, and each one maybe cost $5 plus like $2 to ship. The photos I received of the girls wearing the makeshift veils and holding feather dusters were priceless!!

Post # 12
1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

As I’m on a bit of a budget, and my bridesmaids are all spread out throughout the country, I opted to send each of them a nice card, and I included in each specific memories from our friendship that were special to us, etc. I wrote about it/posted pictures on my blog


The cards were from Target…not expensive at all, but they looked great in my opinion!

Post # 13
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I sent each of my girls a personalized note telling them how special they are to me and why I wanted them in my wedding party.  One of my girlfriend actually gave me personalized "Soon-To-Be-Mrs…" stationary and I wrote the notes on that.  I had the girls that lived locally over for champagne and gave them their notes and mailed the rest (champagne toasts came later!)

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