Asking guests to not post pictures to Facebook/no photography

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say for the ceremony do a no technology/no camera ceremony. I hate when I go to weddings and people are recording or taking pictures, I’ve seen plenty of ideas for cute signs on weddingbee, do a search for it.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really don’t think there’s a polite way for you to ask people not to post pictures on facebook.  You could deactivate your account if it bothers you that much?

Also when the contracts stipulates that they are the only photographers, they mean the only professional photographers.  I’ve never heard of a photographer getting mad that granny is taking photos.  As long as there isn’t another pro photographer, you’ll be fine.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would use word of mouth.. tell your closest friends and family to pass the message along and hope for the best

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@abbie017:  What Abbie said.  Your friends and family are just excited for you.  I’m sure no one is posting things maliciously.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I want to add, I do think it is hard to ask people not to post any pictures on facebook. Because  some  will take tons of  pictures of themselves at the reception, and professional photos take a while to come in.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Quite frankly you can’t stop people from posting pictures on facebook to their own account of your wedding.  You can ask politely but do not be upset if people do post.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@abbie017:  She’s right, you’re photographer just doesn’t want another pro to be competing for pictures.

I find that request a little strange and your guests will too. People take pictures because they are celebrating you and this special occassion. It’s a compliment for them to be taking pictures.

Plus your photographer will not be able to capture every moment, I think you may be grateful that a guest captured a special look or event or person that your photographer may overlook.

Bottom line, you can ask politely, but you will have to police your facebook or deactivate it to keep all the pictures away.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have been to weddings where the officiant has asked right before the ceremony to please refrain from taking photos or video during the ceremony. It’s not rude imo. I think it’s rude when people are pulling out their iphones and updating facebook with photos while a bride is having her moment walking down the isle (or the couple is taking vows or whatever).

As far as anytime other than that, I think photos are fair game. Some wedding photographers take a really really long time to get wedding photos back. I don’t think you can ask your guests to not post photos unless it’s a situation like below.

I have also seen for DW’s that some bride/groom’s have made a welcome letter. In the letter it asked to refrain from posting photos/videos to FB until the B&G are able to share their photos with their family and friends who were not able to attend. They did however make a photo sharing website for the guests to all upload their photos to and share with each other. After couple posted their pics, then all were fair game.

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I thought it was kinda rude at first, but there were some shots that some people were able to get that the professional did not get. Like people falling down, doing shots, jumping in the pool at the end, and just being silly. I laughed at those and the photobooth pictures!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

good luck with that!  I was at a wedding on Saturday night and by Sunday night there were HUNDREDS of pics posted on Facebook.

I asked the bride beforehand how she felt about it and she said she couldn’t wait – it was going to seem like an eternity before she saw the pro shots.

Maybe just ask them not to tag you in the photos right away?  

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that what I saw in a program was something like, please refrain from tagging us in FB or social media untl B&G can share with family and friends. I dont know if it actually said don’t post them. Either way, I think it’s okay to ask but people will likely still do it.

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