(Closed) Asking guests to pay for meal

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 107
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2122 posts
Buzzing bee

Chiming in again to say that you’re allowed to ask for advice and opinions, read them, and do the opposite. Thankfully asking questions on Wedding Bee isn’t a binding contract whereby you must take the advice of the majority. You ARE allowed to see how people feel, then make a decision based on what makes sense to you. 

Post # 108
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2141 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I havent read everything so im sure this has been covered but…

most pubs/clubs/hall have free or cheap function room hire and you can cater a childs birthday for 30 kids from £10 – £20 with places like asda, iceland, lidl, aldi, netto so really if you cant be bothered to find so where with free hire and save up £3.33 a week to put on a £10 buffet I think there is something seriously wrong so that smells of an excuse to just be cheap (you can get an asda wedding cake for £35 as another option for a cake reception)

you cant have a traditional sit down wedding and expect guest to pay but im all for cool alternative weddings idea’s though, nothing has to be traditional… how about doing a boho style wedding – a field, campfire, guitars so you and your musican friends can all play, supply some smores and campfire snacks and cheap booze etc… not a traditional wedding at all but I bet it would be fun, cheap, cool and something people would talk about for years

Post # 109
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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    1:  a marriage ceremony usually with its accompanying festivities

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    <li style=”margin: 0px 0px 1.1875em; padding: 0px; counter-increment: nums 1; letter-spacing: 0.094em; list-style-position: outside; position: relative; list-style-type: none;”>No matter to what you choose to label it, by definition it is a wedding. People are gathering for the sole purpose of celebrating your union. (Congratulations by the way!) So there are two ways I look at it. Are you inviting your guests because you love them and their presence would make your day more special and enjpyable, or are you inviting them to allow them to be a part of your day as a favor to them? (I genuinely belive the former, not the latter, applies to you.) If it is the former, then you are dictating where, when, who, and how, and you should be hosting. If you are simply allowing them to come because you feel they would want to, then by all means don’t pay. But you’re having a wedding. Asking for people to pay for your wedding, per your original question, is rude. 

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Post # 110
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13245 posts
Honey Beekeeper

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ArmyWifey8.23 :  OP can let people pay because inviting them to her wedding is a favor to them? 

Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. I might very much want to be at someone’s wedding, but inviting me is still their prerogative and hosting is still their responsibility. 

The only exception, as I said earlier, is if the friends all got together and decided to organize a dinner in honor of the couple. That’s not happening here.  

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