(Closed) Asking guests to pay for parking?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it tacky to expect guests to pay $8 to park at reception?



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  • Post # 16
    8601 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If valet is required and is the only option you should pay for it.

     It’s different than people paying for city parking- because there are options in a city like cabs, public transport, free street parking, paid lot etc and the choice is up to them. If there’s no choic/self park, I think the host should consider it a venue cost and pay. 

    Post # 17
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

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    pinkrose23:  as a guest id be really upset if I had to pay to park my car to go to someone’s wedding. you chose the venue, you should pay for parking as well. 

    Post # 18
    2865 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    It is so tacky. I got married in a major city and had our reception at a vallet only spot. My guests didnt pay a dime. DH and I have been to over 30 weddings and have never been asked to pay for parking. It seems kind of rude to me– if you ask guests to come to a party,  but then charge an admission fee (assuming driving is the only option)


    One option,  are you providing transportation from a hotel?  That would give guests at least some other option. 


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    Post # 19
    1429 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Honestly, I’d be pretty pissed that I had to pay parking…. We don’t carry cash so we , too would be walking.. And you said there wasn’t anywhere close to park… So is be even more pissed that I got dresses up to celebrate with you and have to walk in heels a distance.

    IMO, you picked that venue… You should pay for parking.. (it’s the same thing in my eyes as asking guests to pay for their meals)

    Post # 20
    5136 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    pinkrose23:  If I am going to a wedding, I am not bringing cash with me. DH always has some cash but I never do. 

    Its great to put it on your wedding website but I feel like guests shouldn’t have to pay for anything at a wedding. On top of that, no one really looks at the wedding website. I never even knew it was a thing until I planned my wedding and no one looked at it. Not even us! I thinks its odd that the venue is charging $8, I have never heard of that before 

    Is it tacky to expect your guests to pay? No but people will definirely be annoyed. 

    Post # 21
    9913 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it depends where you live.  I live in a large city, and I always budget for parking/travel expenses when we go anywhere, weddings included.  I don’t think I’d bat an eye at an $8 valet fee.  

    Post # 22
    442 posts
    Helper bee

    I am having my guests pay $3 for valet parking. It is at a resturant downtown. I feel kind of bad, but I have been to many weddings where I had to pay more for valet parking at a hotel with no other option. I was annoyed, but I got over it right away.

    I don’t think $3 is ridiculous AT ALL. My sole reasoning is it was an expense that I had not budgeted for and is something I can not afford to cover for every guest. I know most people don’t carry lots of cash (but In My Humble Opinion if you don’t have at least a few bucks on you at all times you’re going to find yourself in a pickle in a lot of situations in life) We are planning on letting people know through word of mouth and putting it on our website with the directions/details of the venue just in case.

    Post # 23
    267 posts
    Helper bee

    I have not gone to a wedding where I had to pay for parking, but I definitely would be turned off by it. A girl I work with had people pay $5 for parking and it was the talk of the office that Monday.  People found it to be rude, everyone who went complained.

    Post # 24
    1262 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

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    pinkrose23:  If you absolutely cannot afford it  I would try letting your guests know ASAP. There was only ever one wedding we had been to where we had to pay for parking – we expected it because of the location and paid it but it was still an annoyance. I would try to find a way to at least subsidize the cost of parking so guests are only paying $2 or something to that effect.

    Post # 25
    17 posts

    Valet parking was $20 at the last wedding I went to. I wouldn’t think twice about $8!  Then again, I live in an urban area where parking is a premium. 

    Post # 26
    2738 posts
    Sugar bee

    Sorry, but when you invite someone to an event, I feelyou should shoulder the cost of everything–parking and liquor included.

    I”d definitely think “tacky” if I were expected to pay for parking or my drinks.

    Sorry, but you asked…..

    Post # 27
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Its $8, not $20. I’ve been to a handful of weddings at hotels where as guests we had to pay for parking and it was not a big deal at all. Nobody complained about it. 

    I dunno if I’m paranoid or what, but I always carry cash in case of emergency. 

    Post # 28
    5972 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I personally wouldn’t mind paying for parking but I don’t necessarily always look at the website so I likely wouldn’t have the cash on me to pay. I would be an unhappy camper if I had to walk a long distance in wedding heels/clothes because I didn’t have cash for parking.

    Post # 29
    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    i think you can find other places to cut your budget, $8 a car isn’t that much as others have said and if you are paying all this money for the venue etc. it’s kind of tacky to skimp on the valet. Especially, since there isn’t anywhere close to park themselves.

    Post # 30
    1875 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it depends.  If the reception is downton in a city and there is available parking within a few 2-3 blocks, I wouldn’t worry paying for guests’ parking.  Anytime I visit a city, I assuem I’ll have to pay for parking. 

    However, if the venue is out of the way or in the suberbs or other location where parking is extremely diffucult and the only real option is valet, then I would make cuts elsewhere and cover parking for your guests. 

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