(Closed) Asking guests to pay for parking?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it tacky to expect guests to pay $8 to park at reception?
    Yes : (104 votes)
    68 %
    No : (42 votes)
    27 %
    Other (please explain below) : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 46
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If my valet fee was covered, I would still tip the valet person.  I still tip the bartender at a wedding even though I’m not paying for the drink. 

    Glad to see you’re paying the valet fee for your guests.  I honestly think that is the right thing to do. 

    Post # 47
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    1243 posts
    Bumble bee

    If valet is the only option nearby, then picking up the tab is a nice gesture. For our wedding, there is metered street parking (that takes credit cards) and parking garages, along with valet ($8) at our venue should guests choose that option. I wouldn’t pay cab fare or public transportation costs for my guests that don’t have cars, so I don’t see the big deal in guests paying $8 to park their car. Then again, I’m in a major city where this is the norm and transportation options are plentiful. 

    Post # 48
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    1002 posts
    Bumble bee

    Let’s put it this way: I would not allow a valet to touch my car.  I don’t care how much they charge.  The valet could be free.  They’re not driving my car.

    Post # 49
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    What if a guest has to take a taxi from the hotel to the venue? Should the bride and groom pay for that too? Jeez. 

    I went to a wedding in NYC and had to pay for my cab fare from my hotel to the hotel where the wedding was. I didn’t even think twice about it. 

    It’s under $10. People get way too up in arms over some really trivial costs that they might incur to attend a wedding. If you’re going to be so offended over a $10 parking fee, maybe don’t attend. 

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    As far as I’m concerned, your only obligation is to make it clear to your guests that their only option is valet and they will have to pay. Put it on the wedding website, put it on an insert with the invitation. That’s what I did.

    Our venue’s parking garage is $10. Or people can attempt to find free parking (in DC, on a Saturday night, good luck!) It’s not my problem if they don’t want to spend the money. Those guests who are uncomfortable with it are welcome to decline.

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

    Honestly, any venue that is downtown, or in the city I ALWAYS expect to pay for parking… I don’t see why it would be an issue….

    Post # 52
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    1245 posts
    Bumble bee

    Like other’s, I’ve been to plenty of weddings where you’ve have to find a place to park. Most recently is was $15 to park near the church and walk over and then another $10 at the reception. But in downtown Toronto, you can expect to pay to park anywhere if you dont’ take transit in.

    Post # 53
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    pinkrose23:  Very rude. I would be annoyed if I went to a wedding and found out I had to pay $8 to park my car. That should be included.

    Post # 54
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    OMGMrsW2B:  Actually, around here, if a bride and groom has a hotel room block they usually do get a shuttle service for the guests staying there from the hotel to the venue and back again. So, it is expected that there is some service.

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

    pinkrose23:  We paid for our guests valet parking (with tip)

    We had a dead of winter wedding and we didn’t want people having to deal with slippery ice and finding a space at the hotel.

    I wouldn’t say it’s tacky not to cover it but…..if you spent a chunk of change on something like flower arrangements or centerpieces but you can’t pay for your guests parking…that looks kind of bad.

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    FoxyBride14:  where is “around here”? 

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    i haven’t read PP’s responses yet though i’m certain that what i’m thinking has already been said. but my feeling is that $8 isn’t that much and if you make sure that guests know about the fee then in general you should be fine.

    it would be courteous for you guys to cover the parking fee since it is the only option and (i assume) you’ve known about it since you booked the venue. i’m sure your guests would much rather have their parking paid and see a couple less flowers on the table than to have to remember to bring cash (plus tip!), and a gift/card, etc.

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    FoxyBride14:  Totally different than NYC.

    I’ve been to a good amount of weddings in the city, and nobody is providing shuttle buses. What about if people use public transportation from their NYC apt to a NYC hotel wedding, should the couple pay for that too? And at the weddings and bar-mitzvahs I’ve been to down here in Miami, we’ve always paid for hotel parking without issue. I guess all those hosts are just rude, LOL. 

    At the end of the day, we can agree to disagree. 

    Post # 60
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I disagree that if you’re throwing a party all related expenses are expected to be included.  If I went to a fancy party for a non-wedding occasion, I wouldn’t expect the parking to be paid for.  Why is it different for a wedding?

    Where do you draw the line in what you “have” to pay for?  Most of my guests will be out of town.  I’ll reserve a hotel block and let them know the cost to park there.  We will get a shuttle to and from the venue.  In the “the guest should pay nothing” mindset, would I need to pay their hotel cost?  The cost to park at the hotel?  Their gas?

    I could understand covering the cost at a rural or suburban location, or if there are no other options around, or if it’s winter.  But in all other situations, I think it’s just a nice gesture, and not necessary.

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