(Closed) Asking him to shave for wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Should I request a face shaving?
    yes : (29 votes)
    41 %
    no : (42 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I personally feel like wedding photos should show couples as they usually look, but spiffed up a little. 

    I wouldn’t ask him to shave it if that’s how he normally looks.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I mean, if he looks like Grizzly Adams he should at least clean it up a little bit.  Guys can look really nice with a little scruff (ummm… Hell-LOOOO Bradley Cooper!!) but it should be well-kept, know what I mean?  If it’s a nice, neat, trim beard and that’s how he always looks, and you like it like that, and he likes it like that- don’t change it just for the sake of pictures.

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @BushelAndAPeck:  I think you should trim but not shave. If you love his beard, keep it. If you want to see more of his face, see if he can groom his beard in a way that you still see it without him shaving it completely off.

    Whenever people talk about beards I always remember this one makeover show. They took the dad who was a truck driver and very grungy and gave him a complete makeover from clothes to hairstyle. When he came out, the adults were in awe at how different he looked and they were excited. However, his little girl who was probably 5 at the time started crying. He tried to go to her and she kept screaming “That’s not my daddy! Where’s my daddy!” and she was completely terrified and bawling her eyes out.  

    Ultimately, it depends on your taste.I suggest you go with what you love and not on a whim. If it’ll be a while before the wedding then do a dry run now to see if you like it and hopefully it’ll grow back by then if you don’t like it.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My man has had a beard since day one…I love it.  And I love him.  If the beard is just part of your man…then don’t have him shave.  Like PP mentioned, make sure he’s trimmed up, but not shaved completely.  Otherwise, years down the road, the grandkids will look at pictures of your wedding day and go, “Who is that guy?” LoL.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Nope- he should get a nice trim and haircut, but if you’ve always known him with a beard, it would look out of place if he shaved.

    Plus- he will have that weird tan line on his face, which you won’t want in your pictures. 🙂 

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    wait- I just reread your post- is the beard a new thing? Sounds like you’ve known him without it? In that case, then yes, I think it’s ok to ask. If he’s had a beard for 10 years, no, I don’t really think it’s fair to ask him, but if shaving it off is something he does from time to time (“I love and miss his face sometimes” makes me think so), then yes, ask him.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fiance also has a beard, has hasn’t always, and off hand mentioned he would have to shave it for the wedding. I was surprised and said I certainly didn’t care as long as there weren’t birds living in the beard a la Peter Griffin. I would say thumbs up on the beard and ditto to the tan lines issue.

    Post # 11
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    1587 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Im a huge fan of the five o’clock shadow look, however, my Fi is asian and grows in patches so he is no David Beckham… yes, i will tell him to shave his peach fuzz. lol

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @CaliHoya:  I just lol’d.  That’s one of my favorite episodes.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My Fiance has a goatee, which I love but he gets lazy because he hates shaving. I have no problem telling him when he needs a shave lol

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    That’s a pretty big beard. I’d mention it to him and see what he thinks. Make sure you let him know you are thinking about it because you want to see his face and not because you want to change his style.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I personally think any kind of disorganized scruff comes off as messy (even with Bradley Cooper, as gorgeous as he looks with it). It’s not what I relate to what should be one of the most formal days of your life. But with that being said, being clean shaven is not necessary the only way to look formal either. I think a trimmed, clean beard can look fantastic and still show his face. If you love his facial hair and his beard, you may regret years later looking at your wedding photography and not seeing his young, handsome bearded face.

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