(Closed) asking how much someone’s ring cost…taboo?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m not sure why anyone would need to know how much it cost, so I do think it’s sort of rude.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Yes it is rude because it is no one’s business. Even then, quite a few women don;t know how much their rings cost, nor do they feel the need to know.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

She just doesn’t have good manners, that’s all. I think if you ask her not to talk about the cost of the ring, she might respect that.

No one should ever ask that question. It’s like asking someone how much money they make.  Try not to take offense. It’s not your fault that she doesn’t read Emily Post – one can’t buy taste nor manners -it has to be developed. 

And besides, as she gets older and starts to know diamonds, she’ll never have to ask because a diamond can speaks for itself.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s rude. I have a few people asked about mine and I asked a few people before. To me it’s a c ommon question when the person show the ring; hence I’m surprise to find that many people on WB find it’s rude. Maybe it’s my circle or the culture where I come from. I had coworkers and family members (mom, dad and aunts) asked about it and I shared.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I really think it depends on the type of friend it is. I have friends that I’ve discussed the cost of their ring with them very openly. She could be asking for lots of reasons. Maybe she has a boyfriend and is hoping for a ring and doesn’t really know how much it costs. I don’t think asking the question makes her rude, depending on how she did it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d be a little offended, but she’s probably asking because you don’t often hear of people getting their rings from estate sales or other non-jewelry store places.  She was probably just intrigued by it without really meaning to offend you.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

@krises, the OP mentioned that the woman who asked was recently engaged with her own ring prior to the incident mentioned, so very unlikely she is interested in getting an additional engagement ring.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

With a few situational exceptions, that’s not okay.  For so many reasons.  The cost of a diamond is based on the market price at the time of its purchase, people have have different definitions of “affordability”, clarity can make a smaller diamond more expensive than a big one, etc.  So many.  Someone with a bigger ring than mine could have paid less than I did, and someone with a smaller one might have paid more – it would be rude and unrealistic for me to attempt to compare either the worth of our rings or of ourselves based on anything that subjective.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Generally it’s not ok to ask that.  (There might be certain exceptions).

If you weren’t ok with her asking, then she was wrong to ask. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I seem to be the odd one out but I don’t find it rude at all…my friends and I have talked about where our rings came from, size of diamonds, total carot weight and everything else. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt, I think you can find it rude and unacceptable without thinkings she was trying to be rude. 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@soonerpsych: I agree I think the question might have been prompted because of where he got it. If he went to Jared I don’t think she would’ve asked. I don’t think it’s rude but I do find it a little weird. I have an idea how much my ring costs but I don’t think usually give that information out to people. It costs a pretty penny is my stock answer.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

The question itself is kind of rude but being offended by it really depends on the situation. After Fiance and I had picked out my e-ring I showed my best friend (she’s my MOH) a picture of the ring and she asked how much it was. I didn’t even hesitate telling her and I was in no way offended by the question. My friends and I are all very open with each other about everything. We’ve been friends for almost 15 years so theres not much that we don’t discuss. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I would never ask someone how much their ring costs.  However, my guess is that when your friend heard you got it at an estate sale, she probably thought you might’ve gotten a bargain on it. 

I wouldn’t be offended that someone asked.  However, I would simply tell the person that my boyfriend dealt with the money aspect and that I didn’t know. 

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