Post # 17
I definately think it depends on the situation. Someone who is close, or planning for children-no. I was the first out of my friends to have kids and a lot of them have had questions, I don’t think that is rude.
Post # 18
People STILL ask and DD is 2! I think it’s weird, like why do you care, but I’m happy to answer. I nursed DD for 13 months.
Post # 19
i dont have kids but if i was asked i wouldnt be offened. even if the motivation was to be nosy, if i am completely confident in my descision, then i will have no problem sharing it.
i do think it would be STRANGE for a person i did not know at all and wasnt engaged in small talk about parenting with to randomly walk up and ask, and i probably wouldnt answer because it was creepy.
Post # 20
I don’t think it is rude. Not everyone is trying to judge others. Is it offensive to ask about eating solids before 6 months? If you fed veggies before fruits and so on?
If you are confident in your choices then no one can phase you with their judgments or basic curiosity. Maybe they are struggling with making a choice and you could inspire them one way or another.
Post # 21
Its not rude at all. If its a natural thing and women who breastfeed in public want it to be accepted, then its acceptable to ask.
Post # 22
If they’re asking for a legitimate reason ( like in @abbyful
‘s case), then no big deal. But if they’re just asking out of curiosity, then I think it’s a little strange. I find it interesting 12 weeks postpartum, just how many people ask. It feels like they’re asking so they can judge me. whatever my answer. Don’t know if that’s true, but that’s what it sure feels like.
Post # 23
I would never ask a woman I didn’t know very well that question because it is a very sensitive subject to a lot of people. However I would never be offended if someone asked me, even if it was a stranger.
Post # 24
This is based on the intentions of the person asking. In general though, you will get alot of unwanted advice and judgement by people while pregnant.
Post # 25
Oh man, I am so judgmental about this topic. I wouldn’t say it to a new mom, but I really can’t help it.
Post # 26
In my experience, people often ask so they can preach to you, one way or another. If a new parent or parent friend is asking, I assume s/he probably looking for advice or to share experiences and I’m happy to talk about my choices. If anyone else asks, I assume they want to share their views on the topic, so I usually change the subject.
Post # 27
I would find it rude coming from a stranger or acquaintance, just as I would any other baby-related question. If it’s someone I know and if they’re asking out of curiosity, that’s fine. I’m not a mom yet, so I haven’t personally run into any judgement on the issue and I guess I always figured moms who didn’t breastfeed had a good reason for it.
Post # 28
I am a mom and it would not offend me if someone asked me that. If they are doing so to be judgemental well thats there problem.
Post # 29
It just depends. If its for a legit reason then that’s one thing. But from a stranger…its just a weird thing to ask.
I have had friends who have been asked randomly by people they didn’t know but I was never asked myself. I always secretly kinda hoped that a stranger would ask me, though, so that I could answer with “Neither. We’re putting an extra dish in the floor beside the dog’s bowl.”
Post # 30
I think this is rude to ask, if the woman doesn’t bring it up. Many mothers feel like they have failed their child or they aren’t a good parent because they have problems feeding and have to switch to formula at a young age. It’s a sensitive topic for some women so I would wait for them to bring it up to ask any questions.
I guess it would depend on how you phrase it though. If you are pregnant and just ask “We’re thinking about this, what did you do?” that may be different
Post # 31
i’d be interested to hear your judgements, i tend to be super judgemental about this as well!