Post # 1
Reaching out because I can’t make up my mind.
I’m currently in grad school where I met my new/current bestie. We hang out every day, talk 24/7, and I couldn’t imagine my life without her now.
Before starting school, I didn’t have a lot of close girl friends so I really cherish this new friendship because it’s so nice to have that kind of relationship again.
I’ve only known my friend for around 3 months and am debating asking her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, so I would only have two Bridesmaid or Best Man total.
I’m worried that asking my new friend might freak her out since we haven’t been friends very long and she’ll be the only Bridesmaid or Best Man other than my sister. If the roles were reversed, I would be more than honored to be in her wedding party, but I just can’t seem to make up my mind about the situation. I would love to ask her, but need some advice and maybe some encouragement!
Post # 2
I think you should ask her! A good friend is a good friend, no matter how long you’ve known her. You can always preface your asking by letting her know that you would totally understand if she wasn’t comfortable or otherwise wanted to decline.
Post # 3
Hi bee! I’d advise uou yo wait closer to your date. In the whole year I’ve been engaged so far my relationship with 2 friends has changed quite a bit. Maybe once you’ve set a date ask her to save thr date and ask her like 6 months out. If the friendship forms more, it’ll feel even morr rewarding to ask her and if it doesnt you’ll be thankful you didn’t jump the gun!
Post # 4
Ask her! I just clicked with a new friend right away and we had only been friends for about a year when I got engaged and just knew I’d have to ask her to be in our wedding. I’m so glad I did – we are still very close 5 years later!
Post # 5
I would also recommend waiting a bit like a PP suggested. Right before I got married, I made friends with a group of women that I worked with and we had a close relationship (used to do weekly get togethers after work, groupchats, etc.). I invited them to be guests in the wedding and everyone had a blast. I have since left that job and we tried getting together here and there afterwards, but we have lost touch outside of communicating once in a blue moon on Facebook. Friendships do come and go rather quickly, especially in certain settings (school, work, etc.). Though honestly it’s your call if you want her to be a bridesmaid or a guest. She very well could be a best friend for life, or she could be a best friend for now. If you were to stop being friends, would you be okay with seeing her in your wedding photos as a bridesmaid ten years from now? Just something to think about.
Post # 6
“…I couldn’t imagine my life without her now.”
“I’ve only known my friend for around 3 months…”
While it’s fairly common to feel an immediate “click” with someone one barely knows, it seems to me that you’re being a bit too intense, which might lead to disappointment later on.
Perhaps it’d be best to continue enjoying your friendship, and not rush into asking her.