Asking my new friend to be a bridesmaid?

posted 9 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

I think you should ask her! A good friend is a good friend, no matter how long you’ve known her. You can always preface your asking by letting her know that you would totally understand if she wasn’t comfortable or otherwise wanted to decline. 

Post # 3
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931 posts
Busy bee

Hi bee! I’d advise uou yo wait closer to your date. In the whole year I’ve been engaged so far my relationship with 2 friends has changed quite a bit. Maybe once you’ve set a date ask her to save thr date and ask her like 6 months out. If the friendship forms more, it’ll feel even morr rewarding to ask her and if it doesnt you’ll be thankful you didn’t jump the gun!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2016

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@Lacey2:  Ask her!  I just clicked with a new friend right away and we had only been friends for about a year when I got engaged and just knew I’d have to ask her to be in our wedding.  I’m so glad I did – we are still very close 5 years later! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would also recommend waiting a bit like a PP suggested. Right before I got married, I made friends with a group of women that I worked with and we had a close relationship (used to do weekly get togethers after work, groupchats, etc.). I invited them to be guests in the wedding and everyone had a blast. I have since left that job and we tried getting together here and there afterwards, but we have lost touch outside of communicating once in a blue moon on Facebook. Friendships do come and go rather quickly, especially in certain settings (school, work, etc.). Though honestly it’s your call if you want her to be a bridesmaid or a guest. She very well could be a best friend for life, or she could be a best friend for now. If you were to stop being friends, would you be okay with seeing her in your wedding photos as a bridesmaid ten years from now? Just something to think about.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

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@Lacey2:  

“…I couldn’t imagine my life without her now.”

“I’ve only known my friend for around 3 months…”

While it’s fairly common to feel an immediate “click” with someone one barely knows, it seems to me that you’re being a bit too intense, which might lead to disappointment later on.

Perhaps it’d be best to continue enjoying your friendship, and not rush into asking her.

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