(Closed) Asking parents for permission

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: did your man ask your parents' (mom or dad or both) permission before proposing to you?

    yes

    no

  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My parents are hella old school. i told him he HAD to. but my sisters said don’t ask for “permission” just ask for a blessing:)

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Mine did not.  

    My DH is pretty traditional, and wanted to ask my dad.  I basically told him (sort of half-joking) that if he asked my father, I would say no.

    I would not want to marry someone who asked my dad for permission and luckily DH completely understood my dislike of that tradition so he didn’t.  He didn’t even really “ask” me.  We talked about it for a long time, I saw the ring before it happened, and it wasn’t really a surprise. 

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011 - Calgary Opera Centre

    Mr CB didn’t talk to my parents about it at all. My dad made a little joke about wanting to be consulted, but it was just that, a joke. We’d also been together 5 years, so I think my parents had pretty much assumed that a proposal would happen some time, or we’d just go on living together and not bothering with the ‘piece of paper’.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @Angelz_love:  Exactly the same as me πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i voted no, the only permission he needed was mine

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @eloping: 

    Ditto.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I used to think it was such a silly idea. In this day and age I don’t think our parents get a say in who we choose to marry, we choose our own lives. However, my Fiance did ask my dad and when I found that out I was so happy, I ended up thinking it was so sweet of him. 

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I suggested that Mr. Spaniel should talk to my parents before we got engaged because I knew it would make my dad happy, and I wanted my parents to think Mr. S is as great as I do, but it wasn’t his thing and he didn’t, which was also fine. He also didn’t ask me to marry him… we decided together. πŸ˜‰ We’re kind of non-traditional anyway, and even though my dad gave him a hard time for a minute about not asking him first, he treats him like part of the family now anyway!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @pandaboo:

    I think maybe better wording would be “it’s respectful of the man to tell them he would like to marry their daughter”. 

     

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

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    @pandaboo: my answer would still be no.  im often amused by the number of women that expect the guy to ask permission/blessing/whatever but have a sexual relationship/living with their Fiance.  i wonder if the guy asked permission before they had sex also (not assuming you are)

    πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @pandaboo: While I’ve accepted that some people consider it respectful even though it’s not something I would want, I will never forget calling my mom on the phone and telling her I was engaged when she had no idea- I was so excited to share it with her, I’m glad she and my dad didn’t know ahead of time.

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