Post # 1
Have yet to formally ask anyone to be in my wedding party. I know my sister will be my moh and two cousins are bm. Uncertain whether I want to also ask two childhood friends.. Depends on number of groomsmen and other logistics. One cousin, future bm, is visiting from the west coast at the end of the month. Id like to ask sister and two cousins to be moh and bm while we are all together.. It’ll be a happy moment and things will feel a bit more settled. But don’t think I can ask two childhood friends until later when we work out logistics. If two friends find out, will they be insulted a waited until later to ask? What’s the etiquette here? Ideal to ask all bm at once, but may not work out… Thoughts?
Post # 3
@Catqween: I had this very same dilemma! Im not sure what and if there is any rule but I assumed that other would find out I waited to ask them and it would be weird. So, I asked my family first and then all of my friends in the same day. Looking back I wish I waited so that I thought this through a little more. My only issue is the size of the bridal party itself. I think I would prefer to have a smaller, more intimate one, but it is what it is, and I’m happy with my decision. I realize I asked those people who I did because they are important to me but I also realize that important people, or all important people I should say, have to be included in the wedding party. Be comfortable with your decision and ask you you definiately want to be there to support you that day. Dont ask for any other reason, not to please anyone else and not to avoid hurting any feelings. Hope this helps.