(Closed) Asking someone not to host baby shower after accepting?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

When in August is the shower? Even if it was at the very end you’d still be a month from your due date. I’ve been to showers up until 2 weeks from the mom-to-be’s due date. I know this isn’t a one-size-fits-all thing, but I think you would be fine having your shower at your friend’s house in August. I’d feel pretty bad going back on accepting the shower, especially if she’s super excited about it (which is really nice of her!).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would tell her that you simply won’t be able to travel that late in your pregnancy, and that your SIL has offered to throw one closer to your home. Honestly, pretty sure your doctor would tell you not to travel that distance a month out anyway. 

Just make sure you stress how appreciative you are that she offered, and maybe see if your SIL could include her in helping plan, or help the day of (if she wants to of course).

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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kharpe6 :  Having a pinched sciatic nerve presently myself, I feel your pain! If that’s the case, then maybe just tell your friend that your pregnancy is exacerbating your pain and you’re concerned about the car ride, especially as you’ll be so far along. I would apologize profusely but say that you don’t think you’ll be able to make a party at that time. You could mention that your sister also offered her home after the fact, and that you’d love for your friend to be involved if she still wanted to be but woudl understand if she couldn’t. She might be a bit hurt but hopefully she’ll understand.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

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smoocheepoo :  This OP is your out. Tell her you reinjured your scistic nerve and won’t be able to travel after all. That’s all you need to say. Safety is more important at this point. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Be honest. Your concerns are totally valid, unforeseen, and beyond your control. You clearly care about your friend and appreciate her offer. Let her know in the way you explained it here and she should understand. 🙂

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