Post # 1
This is just a hypothetical question.
What would you do if you and your Fiance eloped alone, none of your friends or family knew.
Then a couple years later you decide to have a real ceremony with friends and family after you saved enough money to have a real wedding.
How do you go about explaing this to your Officiant?
Do you ask them to keep a secret and pretend like this is the first time your exchanging vows?
Has any bride here gone through this?
Post # 3
I haven’t, so I don’t have that perspective, but I would say that in cases like these honesty is the best policy. In the end, it’s probably just easier!
Post # 4
I would be honest and tell the officiant that you are already married but none of your family know and request that they proceed as normal. Ask if there is anything that could come up that would reveal that you are already married. Our friends had courthouse wedding and a religious service years later, I would have never known the difference.
Post # 5
I am already married to Fiance and I told the officient that we are now having our wedding ceremony in the eyes of god and our family without all the legal aspects. He was fine with it.
Post # 6
i wouldnt mention it.
I would just let them think it was our first time getting married!
Post # 7
This happens more than you’d think it does.
Just be honest – it’s probably not the first time it’s happened to them.
Post # 8
This happened to my best friend. They were friends with their priest and explained the situation and he said it was fine to have a church ceremony separate from their civil ceremony.
Post # 9
We had two ceremonies – one legal to satisfy immigration rules and later a religious/family one. In our case everyone knew we were already married including our pastor, but he felt that we should do the vows in the light that they were intended, i.e. using my maiden name and nothing in the ceremony itself that would indicate anything other then that this was our first time being married. The *only* thing we couldn’t/didn’t do was get and sign a marriage license because we were already legally married.