Post # 1
Hi again, Bees!
My boyfriend recently asked how I would feel about asking my Nana if she has any loose diamonds that she would be willing to pass on to him to use in my future engagement ring. My Nana is my absolute favorite person in the world (my BF is well aware of this) so the idea of wearing a stone that belonged to her makes me incredibly happy. I happen to have a stone that is currently in a pendant necklace that I would love to put into an engagement ring, and since it has been passed through both my Grandfather and Grandmother’s families it is definitely the most sentimental piece of jewelry that I own. However, my necklace is a small piece of what used to be a large diamond necklace that was taken apart and made into earring/pendant sets for all of the women in my family (Nana, aunts/mom, and all female grandchildren). I am nervous about approaching the subject with my Nana because I don’t want to offend her by changing the set that I was given/everyone has. However, I love the idea of wearing this stone every day and making it a part of the most important piece of jewelry that I’ll ever own, so I’m really hoping she says yes.
Have any of you asked a family member to reset a piece of jewelry with sentimental value? Any advice on how to approach the subject? Should I even ask?
Post # 2
I think there is nothing wrong in asking. But should something happen between you and your BF where you get divorced down the road, would that tarnish your attachment of the stone? I would assume you would’t want to wear the engagement ring anymore after that but you could reset it.
Post # 3
I never thought about that… I suppose I would reset it back into the pendant necklace if something were to happen (knock on wood). But that’s an excellent point, I’ll have to think more about that.
Post # 4
I suggest you focus on the history and the sentimentality of the stone you’d like to be engaged with.
Post # 5
I reset a family stone for my engagement ring and did not ask. But my situation is a little bit different because I was gifted a ring by my cousin that had stones that were reset from her engagment ring from a failed marriage, so I didn’t feel like it had any sentimental value in its setting. However, a few years ago I was in dire straits financially and was going to pawn it but my mom and aunt freaked out and didn’t want me to. I didn’t end up pawning it but when it came to using the stones in my ring, I knew I was going to use the stones no matter what they said and kind of felt like it wasn’t any of their business.
Post # 6
I think your grandma would consider it an honor to turn a family stone into an engagement ring. You might want to ask her to be sure!
Post # 7
If I were in this situation, I would take your BF and both go visit her, and say that you are moving towards getting married and would feel so honoured if she wouldn’t mind using the necklace stone as an engagement ring. I don’t see why she would say no, but if she did at least you’ll have a straight answer.