(Closed) Asking to reset an heirloom stone? How to approach a sensitive subject

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
9755 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I think there is nothing wrong in asking. But should something happen between you and your BF where you get divorced down the road, would that tarnish your attachment of the stone? I would assume you would’t want to wear the engagement ring anymore after that but you could reset it.

Post # 4
950 posts
Busy bee

I suggest you focus on the history and the sentimentality of the stone you’d like to be engaged with. 

Good Luck!! 

Post # 5
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I reset a family stone for my engagement ring and did not ask. But my situation is a little bit different because I was gifted a ring by my cousin that had stones that were reset from her engagment ring from a failed marriage, so I didn’t feel like it had any sentimental value in its setting. However, a few years ago I was in dire straits financially and was going to pawn it but my mom and aunt freaked out and didn’t want me to. I didn’t end up pawning it but when it came to using the stones in my ring, I knew I was going to use the stones no matter what they said and kind of felt like it wasn’t any of their business. 

Post # 6
1033 posts
Bumble bee

I think your grandma would consider it an honor to turn a family stone into an engagement ring. You might want to ask her to be sure!


Post # 7
7802 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If I were in this situation, I would take your BF and both go visit her, and say that you are moving towards getting married and would feel so honoured if she wouldn’t mind using the necklace stone as an engagement ring. I don’t see why she would say no, but if she did at least you’ll have a straight answer.

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