(Closed) Asking too much of my Bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Newbee

 

Hi Bees!

I’m from the UK and just thought I’d comment as I am shocked to read that in the US it is ‘normal’ for BM’s to buy their own dresses! here in the UK the Bride and Groom buy all Bridal Party outfits.

Sorry nothing to add to help 🙂

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

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PrettyPinkiePie:  agreed. Same in Aus. Outfit, jewellery, hair, makeup etc

Post # 18
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Newbee

Yes same! I have read many times that it is ‘expected’ that BM’s buy their own dress etc.  I do not really undestand that personally, but hey I suppose it makes it cheaper for you! 🙂

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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BabyDeer9:  I don’t think you were asking too much of them. In my experience, the bridesmaids have always purchased their own dresses. However, there is always that one girl who has plenty of time, months of warning, and still does not come up with the money in time for the appointment. In this case, it is irresponsible for all three of your bridesmaids to have done this. If this is the case, can you push the appointment back at all? Give them another month or so? If not, and if you can’t afford to help them out, and they can’t afford to pay for them, then I supposed you’ll have to let them select something from their closet. I firmly believe money is relative and what is expensive to some is not expensive to others, but still. Not being able to come up with $150 over the course of ten months is inconsiderate and irresponsible and these are not girls I would be happy to be friends with. One last thing, is this behavior indicative of something else? I can see where one girl does this (like I said, this has happened every single time I’ve been a bridesmaid), but for all three? Something seems kind of fishy to me.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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BabyDeer9:  There’s nothing wrong with having them buy their dresses and no, you’re not asking much by doing that.  

Does someone have a problem with it, or are you just questioning yourself?  

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think that your BMs all sound kind of flakey :/

I was a bridesmaid when I was a student, paying for half an apartment and only working part time. I made a $200 dress work. 

But if they won’t budge. Give them a color palette and tell them to find a solid coloured dress in that range. A girl I know did that and it looked lovely. 

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