(Closed) Asking your Bridesmaids/Maid of Honor

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
Member
1619 posts
Bumble bee

I feel like giving a gift when asking them to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man is over the top.  Just have a simple chat with your friends and ask them individually if they would like to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  By making it a big production with gifts and what not could put undo pressure on people to say yes when they really may want to say no.

But when you purchase the wedding party thank you gifts you should shop for them like it is their birthday or Christmas.  Don’t worry about the gifts matching, but rather focus on each person separately and what they likes/hobbies are.

Post # 3
Member
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

When I asked my bridesmaids I didnt “give” them anything but I still wanted a fun way to ask them.  I wrote down a cute sentence asking them to be my bridesmaids, folded it up and put it in a balloon.  I blew the balloon up, put the balloon in a box and attached to the string it had a little card with a pin saying “pop me”.  Once they popped it they had the paper to read asking them to be in my wedding.  Each and everyone of my BM/MOH loved it! They thought it was such a cute idea instead of just blatantly asking them.   Just an idea.

Post # 4
Member
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have asked 3 of my close friends and 2 cousins (Jr bridesmaids). They said yes. Now I’m preparing small boxes with goodies for them (mini hand lotion, mini booze lol, and more mini stuff). I will be getting them gifts for the wedding day, most likely earrings that they could wear the day of ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
Member
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I made ‘proposal’ boxes…I knew they would all say yes so I wasn’t worried about that and they were SO much fun to make! 

 

I had tiny heart necklaces made for each of them with their initial on it & the rocks are our wedding colors <3 

Post # 6
Member
33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I gave my bridesmaids small packs of chocolate truffles with a nice card asking if they would be my Bridesmaid or Best Man. They loved them, especially because they weren’t expecting anything.

I don’t think giving a gift is over the top, if you can afford to. And as for the pressure thing- these were my closest friends so I knew they were going to say yes even if I just simply asked them.

But I do agree that personalizing gifts are the way to go! My Maid/Matron of Honor is vegan so she got something different. My BMs love chocolate- one is a foodie so I researched and gave her some chocolates with exotic flavors, one loves desserts so I gave her dessert inspired chocolates (think creme brulee, strawberry cheesecake, etc), and the other is more traditional and she got the basic milk choc with some nuts and caramel flavors.

Post # 7
Member
877 posts
Busy bee

 Sure, “will you be my…” Gifts are unnecessary, but I love them! We did a little something for each of our wedding party members. For my girls I did hand glittered champagne flutes which they all loved and a mini bottle of wine. It was super inexpensive so even though not totally practical it worked really well. I found free printable cards online.  Then I made cards for the groomsmen with cigars attached (of the bubblegum variety for my 12 yr old ushers). And I did little flower hair clips and a flower girl book for the flower girls!

Post # 9
Member
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

View original reply
AshleyK1225:  I don’t think it’s tacky as long as it has as little meaning behind it. Maybe give them each different flavors or scents based on how you think of them or soemthing that ties them to it.

I was struggling with what ‘ask’ gifts to do as well so I settled on Alex and Ani bracelets. I got them their first name inital along with a mini bottle of champagne and a card. For my MOH’s (having two) I got a second Alex and Ani bangle (one of the decorative beaded ones) and added in a little stuffed animal or keepsake that is relevant to our friendship. I plan on having them wear their bracelets on the wedding day so we can all get a photo of them together ๐Ÿ™‚

Overall the sentiment of the moment will far outweigh any gifts so go with what feels natural and reasonable!

Post # 11
Member
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

While the “be my bridesmaids” gifts are totally cute and come from a well-meaning place, they are completely unnecessary. I know it doesn’t seem costly but say you spent $10 on four girls – there’s $40 that could go into savings for the actual wedding. And I’d be hard pressed to find a “cute” gift under $10pp.

Say more realistically you spend $30 each – again, based on four girls, that’s $120. You could use that to pay for mani’s for them all before the wedding which I guarantee would be much more appreciated. 

The girls don’t need, or expect, anything. ๐Ÿ™‚ They’ll just be happy they were asked. 

If anything, head out to dinner with them all, or invite them over and give them a handwritten note. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by Thrburko89.
Post # 12
Member
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I made pretty little boxes to ask my girls, because why not?  It was really fun to put them together, and even more fun to send them to them all.  It included some silver knot rings from Etsy along with a card where I wrote, “will you help me tie the knot”, and a trip to Michaels for the rest of the materials.

 

Post # 13
Member
877 posts
Busy bee

View original reply
Thrburko89:  I spent $12 total on my “be my bridesmaids” gifts for 4 girls and they turned out super cute, I loved them. When brides do the ring pop gift it probably costs less than ten for the candy and the boxes. I have to disagree with you and say that a little effort goes a long away, and you can get cute gifts for very little money. 

Post # 14
Member
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

View original reply
MrsFiveOh:  And that’s awesome! ๐Ÿ™‚ If you can do it for cheap, go for it! 

I just find that it suddenly gets more and more expensive. I had four girls – I gave them their thankyou presents and four cards at $4 each is already $16. 

But they aren’t necessary. It’s part of the wedding industrial complex. 

The topic ‘Asking your Bridesmaids/Maid of Honor’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors