(Closed) Assign seating or not ??

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Assign seating or not - that is the question.
    Assigned seating : (70 votes)
    84 %
    Open seating : (13 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We have always just gotten assigned to a table and picked our own seat for any wedding we have ever been to.

    Post # 4
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    You have not options in your poll.

    are you haveing a seated dinner or buffet?

    Post # 5
    1014 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I personally like assigned seating (meaning assigned tables) because I don’t want to have to do a mad dash to grab a seat for my Darling Husband and I. Usually when the host assigns seats,  they at least make sure you know a handful of the people at your table. I’d feel awkward being stuck at a table of people I didn’t know because those were the only seats left.

    Post # 6
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    @simplifiedbride:  Same!

    Once I went to a reception where there was no assigned seating and it was kind of chaotic and hard to get seats. I’m not saying it can’t be done in an organized fashion, but the experience I had with it wasn’t positive (:

    Post # 7
    88 posts
    Worker bee

    My preference is always assign seating. We have been to two weddings lately without it and we didnt know anyone and it was very uncomfortable as you feel like your crashing someones table. Also, you know your guests best so you have an idea of friends that have common interests or personalities that might clash. Not to mention it is easier for the servers for meal choice/allergies etc. To me assigned seating is more organized and shows some care. where non assigned seating just seems unorganized.

    Post # 8
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It depends on what is typical in your area. Do people usually have assigned seating? If not the chances are high they will pass right by the escort cards not knowing what they are. 

    Post # 9
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee

    in think in general people will sit by people they like and know, but it would be akward for someone who came late or was busy in the bathroom ect. when the doors opened if all the seats had been taken and couples ended up getting seperated ect. 

    I say assign tables or plan to have an extra table to two so you know people will have fair choice of seats. 

    Post # 10
    2158 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Assign seating. That way people don’t have to worry about getting there early to be able to sit with their family and friends.

    Post # 11
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    assign seating – not to have this reminds me of highschool with people claiming chairs and moving tables/chairs while others are asking “are these seats taken”.  all very awkward

    Post # 13
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @simplifiedbride:  Agreed. I think assigning tables is helpful, and I’m going to let people decide their individual seats at that table.

    Post # 14
    674 posts
    Busy bee

    @Oh Ya:  I think you’re misreading her comment. She said the tables are assigned, then at the table, people choose their own seats.

    I’m with everyone else who said to assign tables/seats. If you don’t do it, you need to plan on 1-2 extra tables to allow for open seats when strangers don’t sit right next to strangers. Yes, it happens. It will always happen unless there’s some level of assignment. It’s not just weddings, but all sorts of dinner events. When there is an assigned table, people are far less likely to leave open seats. If it’s a free-for-all, there are always messy states of saved seats and open seats.

    Post # 22
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    You should definitely assign seating.  You don’t want your parents friends at a table with your college roomates telling stories of you getting drunk and taking your top off.  Or other embarassing tales.

    It stinks as a guest to have to rush to try to get a seat, and groups of 6 at an 8 table.  Then that leaves 2 people to sit with a large group who they may or may not know. 

    One of the hosts duties, is to seat guests with other guests who will be of interest and have stimulating conversations with.

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