Post # 1
For our rehearsal dinner we are using the uber-modern space in our building. It is not a giant room and seating would be limited for our 40 or so Rehearsal Dinner guests. I have come up with a seating plan for our family and friends while my Fiance just wants to let everyone sit where they want. Even with 5 six foot tables I am cramming an extra person(luckily small children, :)) at the joint of the table. I am concerned without assigned seating that people will sit and leave a chair that needs to be utilized empty. Plus I have arranged it so the two sides i.e. my family/friends & his family/friends can converse with a person that has some similarities already. He feels people will do that on their own.
Which way do you think would be better?
Post # 3
We didn’t do assigned seating and we had just under 40 people sitting at tables of 6. For the most part it worked out just fine. The only issue we had was DH’s out of town family (whose invite was a complete surprise to me as it was supposed to be only the bridal party) decided that instead of sitting where there was room and god forbid sitting at a different table that they would just start grabbing chairs and place settings from other tables and dragging it over to the one table. Therefore, there were about 9-10 people at a table for 6. This meant that another table was left with only a few people. I found this very rude. But that’s a whole different story!!!
Post # 4
@MUI831: Thanks for the input. That is my fear. FI’s family tends to keep to themselves and some of my friends can be shy so I want to ensure everyone has a good time and really gets integrated. I have found you have a better time at the wedding if you know the other family, even if just a little bit!
Post # 5
I think assigned seating is a good idea. I went to a RH dinner where I didn’t know anyone, so it was nice to be assigned to sit with some of the bride’s friends who were about my age, and we had a great time. It definitely makes it easier on those who don’t know many people there!
Post # 6
@All In: Thanks. That is true. And there will be a few random people, that are our close friends from random places, that don’t know many people there.
Post # 7
Could you just put “reserved for the _______ group” on certain tables and leave the rest open. Let certain people know if they te in a group….
Post # 8
I didn’t do assigned seating at our rehearsal dinner, and I TOTALLY regretted it. DH’s divorced grandparents ended up stuck sitting next to each other and having a super awkward time. Then someone I’m not fond of tried to sit right next to me – luckily my mom saw the look on my face and announced that the bridal party should all sit together, so that problem was solved. But the whole sitting down process at the restaurant was a nightmare. Half the guests got there before me and just sat down randomly, so by the time we got there with our wedding party, there were just random seats here and there and married couples were getting separated. I’d love to be able to go back and do a seating chart for that night.
And yes, I know it’s been over a year and I should get over it, but I do still feel strongly about this and I wanted to share my story in case it helped with your decision.