Post # 1
My Fiance and I are having a bit of a disagreement in regards to assigned saeting at our reception. I want to have escort cards when guests first arrive at the restaurant and then an assigned seat for them at their specific table. My Fi thinks this is a stupid idea. He seems to think that having people sit at certain tables is fine but then going one step further by “ordering” them to sit in a certain seat is too much. My arguement is that its just a nice detail for guests to feel welcomed and thought of more than just a number. That once they are at their table, if they want to shuffle around because of logistics, ie. kids, they can moved around. We are having a small wedding of about 65 people, is he right about giving them a little freedom to si where they want to at the actual table?
Post # 3
I think the escort cards for specific tables is okay, but I would allow the guests the freedom to sit where they want at the tables. Sorry to say it, but I think I agree with your future hubby. Don’t hate me!!!
Post # 4
Both of you are right for different reasons. It is a very nice detail to have the guests get a card that tells them where they will be seated and also which seat is theirs; i.e., reserved seating. However, I think that unless you are having different favors for the kids than the adults, I would go with just letting them know which table. We are having 30 guests, and I have to do assigned seating because we have 1 child coming and his favor is different than the adults. If it wasn’t for the child, I would let our guests pick their own seats.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
I think it’s ok to just assign the tables, but not the seats.
Post # 6
I never even knew people assigned seats til WeddingBee. I’ve never been to a wedding that assigned seats, tables yes but not specific seats.
Post # 7
The only time I’ve been assigned a seat rather than a table is when I had a choice of entree on the RSVP, so I guess they needed that for catering purposes. If everyone is eating the same meal or if there’s a buffet, then I would do without escort cards.
Post # 8
I am with your Fiance on this one…I would assign the table, not the individual seat.
Post # 9
I think assigned tables are expected. Assigned seats(or sit wherever you want) might work better if you had a super-small wedding (10-15 people small).
If you have no assigned tables or seating you may have the “movie theatre” issue with seating if you don’t . If someone has to sit at a random table they leave a space between and you’ll have single guests at tables where it might throw off numbers for couples or families.
Assigned tables are usually easier for your guests. I personally think assigned seats are overkill, unless you have a specific reason. It can also cause confusion for guests when you get bigger numbers. It’s like an easter egg hunt for your seat.
Post # 10
@posh_princess: see that is exactly what I said to him, movie theatre seating!
Post # 11
I think a table number is fine but, picking an actual seat for them is a little much.
Post # 12
My venue requires us to assign seats.
I recommend you assign seats, or the last couple to arrive may be split up. I was recently at a wedding with no table assignments at all (not even an area of the place) and it was a disaster and embarrassing for everyone.
@noritake22:I’m going to agree with you, there are reasons for both. But as you said, if the kids are getting something different, they need a specific seat.
DO you have a plated meal or a buffet? With a buffet, it’s easier to do tables only, but with a meal, you need to indicate the meal option and it will make it easier on the venue (and people will get the right food, still hot) if you assign the seats.