(Closed) Assigned seating the reception question

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is assigned seating necessary for a small recpetion of 65ish?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    33 %
    No : (12 votes)
    57 %
    Other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think the escort cards for specific tables is okay, but I would allow the guests the freedom to sit where they want at the tables.  Sorry to say it, but I think I agree with your future hubby.  Don’t hate me!!!  Innocent

    Post # 4
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Both of you are right for different reasons. It is a very nice detail to have the guests get a card that tells them where they will be seated and also which seat is theirs; i.e., reserved seating. However, I think that unless you are having different favors for the kids than the adults, I would go with just letting them know which table. We are having 30 guests, and I have to do assigned seating because we have 1 child coming and his favor is different than the adults. If it wasn’t for the child, I would let our guests pick their own seats.

    Post # 5
    824 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    I think it’s ok to just assign the tables, but not the seats.

    Post # 6
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I never even knew people assigned seats til WeddingBee. I’ve never been to a wedding that assigned seats, tables yes but not specific seats.

    Post # 7
    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The only time I’ve been assigned a seat rather than a table is when I had a choice of entree on the RSVP, so I guess they needed that for catering purposes. If everyone is eating the same meal or if there’s a buffet, then I would do without escort cards.

    Post # 8
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am with your Fiance on this one…I would assign the table, not the individual seat.

    Post # 9
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think assigned tables are expected.  Assigned seats(or sit wherever you want) might work better if you had a super-small wedding (10-15 people small). 

    If you have no assigned tables or seating you may have the “movie theatre” issue with seating if you don’t .  If someone has to sit at a random table they leave a space between and you’ll have single guests at tables where it might throw off numbers for couples or families.

    Assigned tables are usually easier for your guests.  I personally think assigned seats are overkill, unless you have a specific reason.  It can also cause confusion for guests when you get bigger numbers.  It’s like an easter egg hunt for your seat.

    Post # 11
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think a table number is fine but, picking an actual seat for them is a little much.

    Post # 12
    2907 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My venue requires us to assign seats.

    I recommend you assign seats, or the last couple to arrive may be split up. I was recently at a wedding with no table assignments at all (not even an area of the place) and it was a disaster and embarrassing for everyone.


    @noritake22:I’m going to agree with you, there are reasons for both. But as you said, if the kids are getting something different, they need a specific seat.



    DO you have a plated meal or a buffet? With a buffet, it’s easier to do tables only, but with a meal, you need to indicate the meal option and it will make it easier on the venue (and people will get the right food, still hot) if you assign the seats.

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