(Closed) Assigned Seating – yes or no

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Assigned Tables for High Tea?
    Yes assign everyone a table : (44 votes)
    76 %
    Yes assign everyone a table and a seat : (9 votes)
    16 %
    No - it ok to have open seating : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Other - explanation below : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Do assigned tables. Open seating turns into chaos with people trying to reserve tables using jackets and purses, and people getting split up from their SOs or families.

    Post # 4
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I agree with jayce.  Open seating can create chaos, which you don’t want.

    Post # 5
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    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Given you said they were a ‘challenging’ group, they definitely need assigned tables.  If there are problems even within the table groups, then do seats also but I would think just tables is enough!

    Post # 6
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    759 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i agree. assigned tables but you dont need to assign specific seats

    Post # 7
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    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Assigned tables definitely. It’s way too high-school-cafteria without some sort of direction 🙂

    Post # 8
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    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I never knew open seating at receptions existed until I went to a wedding for one of FI’s friends. We were waiting in this line which we thought was to pick up our place cards but it was really to sign the guest book. We did a loop around the venue searching for our assigned table and noticed everyone else had the same perplexed looks on their faces. Moral of the story…assigned tables! I can think of a few people we’re inviting who don’t know many people at our wedding and it would just be awkward for them – high school cafeteria like @youhavemyheart said.

    Post # 9
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    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @youhavemyheart: High school cafeteria is the perfect analogy. I definitely wouldn’t want my guests to feel awkward having to approach a table of strangers and ask if they can sit there.

    Post # 10
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    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree, assigned seating! I went to a wedding of an old high school friend. There wasn’t anybody else that I knew, besides the group that already had their table full, so my Fiance and I sat at a table by ourselves. An older couple did come join us, and it was totally awkward.

    Post # 11
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Yes, assign everyone a table! Seriously, as a guest who went to a wedding with no seats assigned and a very specific group of people I wanted to sit with (co-workers), I was STRESSED waiting for the doors to open in hopes to get a table to sit at. 

    If you have a challenging group of people (from different circles, etc), it’s best for you to assign the seats. This way, you can group together people who know each other. Even though it’s high tea, it’s still a seated situation and you should assign them seats. You can do escort cards, or just do a printed poster-like-thing where people find their names and their table numbers.

    Post # 12
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    58 posts
    Worker bee

    Please atleast assign tables. I went to a very high end wedding and they did not assign seats or tables and it was like @jayce: said as soon as you got up other people were on your seat like vultures. Then you had to awkwardly go and try to sit with strangers. The lack of assigned seats was the one real shortcoming of that wedding in my opinion.  

    Post # 13
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would have assigned seats.  I think it is best for people to not have to deal with it- less potential for problems if they cannot chose 😉

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would at least assign tables.  I went to a wedding once where my Fiance was the best man, and I didn’t know anyone (first time meeting his friends from home).  I had to travel separately to the reception and there were no seating assignments, so it was super awkward for me.  Thankfully they didn’t have a head table so I could at least sit with him at dinner and afterwards, but the cocktail hour waiting for the wedding party to arrive was no fun at all for me!

    Post # 15
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    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Originally, I would have said no to assigned seats. That was until I read all these posts about assigned seating. I hadn’t planned on it. Just figured, hey sit where ya want. But now, I’m second guessing myself on that plan. It probably is the best idea. It will just make things run smoother. Everyone will have a seat with at least one person they know for dinner. Then after that they can let loose (: So in other words I say “yay” to assigned seats!

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would definitely do assigned tables.  Especially you don’t have any room to let any seats go empty.

    Say you get a group of 3, and then a group of 4 sitting at your 8 person table… someone would have to abandon their date and go single?

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