(Closed) Assigned Seating…pros and cons?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

First, thank you for having seating for everyone!  I really dislike going to weddings and not being given a place to sit.

In my mind, the biggest benefits of assigned tables are:    you know families won’t be broken up (if a family of four gets their food to find  tables with one open seat, they are kind of up a creek), and if you have people who CAN’T sit together (I have divorced family members who quite simply need to be on opposite sides of the room), then you don’t have to worry about it. 

If you can swing having more quite a few more tables and chairs than you need, neither of these will likely  be an issue and you could avoid the pain in the butt that seating charts are.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

We are doing assigned seating only for our parents and wedding party (that way they will for sure get seats after photos).  After that, we’ll let the guests choose for themselves.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I can already tell you that about 85% of your responses to this post will be pro-assigned seating. The ladies here (including me!) generally pull for assigned seating for a variety of reasons 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m afraid that the only way to make 3 person tables work is going to be via a seating chart so you can either put 3 singles or 3-person families there.  3 people is a difficult number to work with, and if you don’t have assigned seating, I think you’ll just have a bunch of “wasted” chairs at those tables.

And believe me, I’d love to avoid a seating chart….I’m just not sure you can in this situation.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If everyone has to fend for themselves one or two people may be surrounded by others they don’t know, making them uncomfortable. Another thing, you will probably have people trying to fit 8 people @ a table for 6 just because they know eachother. I think assigned tables, not so much actual seating, helps the confusion.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think the biggest benefit of assigned seating is that if you have 110 guests you only need 110 seats. Everyone has a place. If I didn’t assign seats I’d feel like there needed to be some extra seats so that couples didn’t get split up or my friends didn’t end up sitting with my grandma. As a guest it stresses me out to walk into a room of people I mostly don’t know and have to find a place to sit. Hello first day of high school all over again! 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

assigned seating is more organized and in my opinion adds a little elegance and class to a wedding. when u do not assign seating some families will be able to sit together esp. if they dont arrive at the same time.  I have been to wedding with and without assigned seating!

Post # 13
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Newbee

We are the opposite of you guys – me from MI and him from NOLA.  I am a big proponent of assigned seating IF there is going to be a time where everyone is expected to sit down at the same time to eat, listen to speeches, etc.  I was once in a position where myself and two other single bridesmaids (who I didn’t know) ended up sitting alone at a table for 10 in the front of the room because the groomsmen’s wives moved the chairs so they could all sit together.  It was humiliating.  BUT – I also never wanted a sit-down dinner, which I find can be boring.  So I was psyched when i found out they don’t do those in NOLA.  My mom keeps saying, I just don’t understand exactly how it will work.  And I say, me neither, but when in Rome…  

My caterer said that for parties with a lot of “northerners,” they usually do 70-80% seating instead of the normal 50 – 60%.  I’m sure it sounds weird to a lot of people, and it does to me too, but I’m rolling with it.  If anyone knows how to party, New Orleans does.

 

Post # 14
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Newbee

Also – NOLA – off topic question, if you don’t mind – is it true that people in New Orleans typically don’t RSVP?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I echo the applause for having a seat for everyone, a practice which, in addition to assigned seating, can do wonders for the comfort and relaxation of your guests. (We actually made sure we had extra places for guests to sit at our reception, by providing two separate lounge-type areas where people could sit and relax in various groups after dinner was over). Having at least an assigned table, if not an assigned seat, helps assure guests that they won’t have to scramble to find a place where they know enough people not to feel awkward. It prevents your mother’s coworkers from being forced to sit with a bunch of drunk frat brothers. You get the idea.

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