Assigned seatting or no assigned seating for an intimate 35 person wedding

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
2706 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

With 35 people, I think you might be OK without a seating plan.  How many tables are you having?

Post # 4
2967 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

since it’s such a small crowd, i think you’ll be be fine without assignments. my friend had 40-50 people at her wedding and it was open seating and it worked out fine.

Post # 6
9689 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had open seating at our 60 person wedding and it was fine. We did have a table reserved for the wedding party and each set of parents hosted a table – they were in charge of picking who sat at thier tables. 

Post # 7
77 posts
Worker bee

lindseyt311 :  I would do assigned tables (not necessarily seats), especially with a small wedding and tables with more capacity than you hope to fill. What if three groups of ten immediately break off into tables and you’ve got five guests sitting at a fourth and two empty tables? Or if two people sit down at a table first and then no one else sits at their table? We are having  35-50 people and are planning to do table assignments for this reason (plus we have a few guests coming solo and we don’t want them to feel awkward when looking for a seat).

Post # 8
1214 posts
Bumble bee

Had a 44 person wedding- did assigned tables to have some commonality at each table.

Post # 9
6607 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

lindseyt311 :  This was the size of my wedding – I’d say definitely no seating assignments.  We all just wandered around where we felt like it and it was a great time.  No problem with the few people who didn’t know each other mixing up a bit.  No one appeared left out and lonely.  I would consider at least one extra table – that way if there’s a ‘group’ of five, there isn’t another random tacked on because there’s no room left where that person wanted to sit.  You’ll wind up with some empty spaces but no big deal, people are good at spreading.

Post # 10
2631 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We have 50 people at our wedding.  We assigned tables, but not seats.  We had a few couples that didn’t know other people, and I wanted to make sure they got to sit at a table with some people who I knew they would get along well with.

Post # 11
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Assigned tables, not seats. Always. It doesn’t matter who knows each other or not, it matters who doesn’t get along. 

With open seating it may shake out that random groups or people who hate each other might be stuck at the same table.

Post # 12
1365 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s important to assign tables (not seats). I know some people have found it works for them but every wedding I’ve been to with open seating — regardless of wedding size — has been uncomfortable at best. We had fewer people than you do and only had 4 tables and still assigned tables. I think it’s especially important if you have folks who wouldn’t want to sit together (H’d family had weird dynamics).

Post # 13
328 posts
Helper bee

I think you should assign tables not seats like previous posters suggested. Just from a guests’ perspective, I would prefer to have an assigned table and not have to scan the room and figure out where me and my party would fit.

Post # 14
2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would do assigned tables, not seats. 

Post # 15
2146 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

unless you want to minimally have 100 table then you need a seeting plan or as other have said assigned tables minimally (think this is american as ive never heard of it other than on here)

there is othing ruder than familys/couples being seperated at weddings a stuck randomly where they fit and that happens with seeting-plan-less weddings


Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors