Assigned seatting or no assigned seating for an intimate 35 person wedding

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would also do at least assigned tables, if not seats to ensure couples can sit beside one another.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

My vote is for assigned seating.  People can always choose to get up and change seats.  But if you have any introverts on your guest list, not knowing where to sit is gawwd awful especially when everyone seems to clique up easily. 

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper

lindseyt311 :  I think for that small, you wouldn’t need an assigned seating.  My SIL did one assigned table which was the head table other than that others could sit where they wanted and her wedding was far larger than 35 people.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

pinkcorsage :  Do you remember the school lunchroom in middle school? That is what a wedding with open seating is like. You really learn for sure how much the people you know, want you around. 

Don’t say ‘everyone at a wedding is a grownup and it isn’t middle school anymore’. Life is like middle school a lot of the time.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper

DanaWeddingGuest :  Okay well all of the weddings I’ve been to it’s never been like that.  Sorry for suggesting that.  Jeez.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: The Hayloft

I was a guest at a wedding with about 30 people in attendance and there was no assigned seating and it went perfectly fine. We all knew each other anyway and just found our seats sort of organically. It will be fine, don’t sweat it!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

lindseyt311 :  I think it is pretty helpful to have at least assigned tables. I think you only really need assigned seats if you are doing a plated dinner or (like myself) have a lot of family drama that will take some strategic maneuvering of people to minimize any issues. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

lindseyt311 :  we just had escort cards that had the person’s table number underneath their name.  Then they picked out their seat at that table.  No signs needed!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We did assigned seats because we made english party crackers to crack open after brunch & thought it would be fun to make those into place cards too. 

We had 30 guests total with us included. Since they were all family & very close friends everyone had an idea where they were going to sit ahead of time anyway.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

We had 50 day guests at our wedding and had a seating plan just so people didn’t have to figure it out for themeselves but I think your wedding could work fine without one 

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We did assigned seating for 18 guests. We had one long table. 

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