(Closed) assigned tables?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: are assigned tables necessary?
    well yeah! : (46 votes)
    73 %
    not really. : (15 votes)
    24 %
    other-please explain : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i think it would depend on the type of wedding youre having.  if its a formal, sit down dinner, than i think assigned tables are necessary.  if its a more laid back, cocktail reception, or even a buffet reception, assigned tables really wouldnt matter as much.  that said, im having a buffet reception and will still be assigning tables because i dont want to field everyone’s “where should i sit” questions ha

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Personally I think so.  I didn’t think I was going to bother when I first started my planning, but then I got to thinking about making sure that families/couples were seated together, and what happens if my friends from the Netherlands (one of whom doesn’t speak English very much) end up sitting at a table with only English speakers, or my gamer buddies end up with my church friends.  In the end I felt it was much nicer for everyone involved to take some time and set up tables based on general groupings (gamer table, church group table, etc).

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted not really, but then I remembered that I am actually doing a couple of tables that will be reserved (parents, grandparents, siblings) and the rest will be open seating. 

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve been to both kinds of weddings. The assigned table weddings were nice because you had a spot that the bride and groom sat you at with other people you may know. When it was a wedding without assigned tables, we were mingling so much that we forgot to get seats and ended up at a table in the back with people we didn’t know. Another wedding that wasn’t assigned, hardly anyone sat in their seats the entire night and seemed like there were way more seats available than people who attended so there were a lot of tables with only 2 or 3 people.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    im doing it, becouse is more organized and sometimes it can be better for guests to sit with people they know or like

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee

    I think it’s a must, especially if anyone you are inviting has kids. Many of the people we are inviting have 3 or 4 kids, and I don’t want them to have to ask people to move so their 6 person family can sit together. Also, it helps keeps my FH’s traditional LDS grandmother away from my rambunctious and at times insulting friends. It keeps you from having 8 tables with only 7 people sitting at each and a handful of couples wondering why they have to sit apart.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I was always against assigned tables. But I’ve slowly come to realize that its a necessary evil. Its the only way to get everyone seated smoothly and in a timely manner and it just makes everything more organized over all.

    Post # 10
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    People only really sit down while dinner is being served, otherwise they’re dancing, mingling, getting more drinks… I think it’s a courtesy to the guests to tell them where to sit. You can place certian families that get along next to one another, which in turn might flow into another table that will get conversation flowing, rather than everyone playing it safe and part of the family sitting off in a corner most of the night.

    Just don’t place Uncle Rico next to his least favorite Cousin Ronnie just for the entertainment of watching them brawl on the floor, say, after the salad is served. Unless the dj’s late. 🙂

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Yes, assigned tables are SO much better. Relieves any stress for guests, makes conversation easy. It gets guests to know other people. I really think that how I set our tables was one of the reasons why our wedding went so well. We mixed people up – DHs friends, my friends, his cousins, my cousins – they were all mixed in! I spent a lot of time carefully placing people that I knew would get along well and make easy conversation!

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    assigned tables are SO much better! i’ve been to free-seating weddings, and they were always a mess. people would RUN to reserve a table, and the number of chairs at each table always ended up way off because people would move chairs from one table to another. i got stuck sitting with people i had never met, and it was pretty awful.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I did assigned tables, but hadn’t originally planned to until about 6 months before our wedding. We went to a “free seated” wedding. They had 10 chairs set at each table.  Darling Husband and I were out in the hall talking to the brides sister and her husband. We entered into the room late and well all 4 of us sat at different tables.  There wasn’t enough seats for us (the only people we knew there were them), forget even sitting with Darling Husband. Because there were 10 at a table already we couldn’t just sneak a chair in. We were ok and sat apart, but it was annoying, and I decided I didn’t want to do that to any of my guests.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am also a big fan of assigned seating.  You are hosting a party, and if you are  thoughful about where your guests eat you can really enhance the experience for the.

    If you don’t have a seating chart, I definitely reccomend having quite a few extra place settings to help avoid the situation where the last family to sit down ends up not being able to sit together.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am going to say that many parts of the country do NOT do assigned seating.  I have only been to one wedding that had assigned seating and to be honest I like to be able to pick who I want to sit next to instead of being told.  I have never seen any of the issues that others speak of but I am not saying it doesn’t happen. 

    I think it depends on your background and what people think a wedding will be like. 

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We aren’t doing it either–in fact, I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding that did assigned seats, or even tables!

    I didn’t care much either way, but Fiance was adamatly against it.  He didn’t like the idea because

    1.  People should be allowed to choose where they sit–this isn’t middle school math class!

    2.  If people want to move from table to table, whether mingling or to chat with a different set of friends or a new friend altogether, they shouldn’t feel like they aren’t allowed to do that.

    3.  Most people naturally choose a spot that is “theirs”–whether marked by their purse, shoes, jacket, or other personal items, or simply out of that weird human tendency to always return to one chair after seating arrangements have been established, people tend to organize themselves in a way that is comfortable to them.

    To prevent seat-stealing possibilities, we are adding a couple more tables than strictly necessary, and also plenty of extra chairs along the walls.  That way, if more than 8 people want to sit together, they can pull up an extra chair, and there will be a few extra seats at a bunch of tables for people to be able to find a seat around people they are comfortable with.

    The ONLY wedding I went to where seating was an issue was my uncle’s–they did not provide nearly enough seating for everyone.  I think the idea was that people should be mingling on foot, but people tend to want to be able to sit while they’re eating or after a few hours of being on their feet, so most of the time there were too many people squeezed into one couch, people sitting on each other’s laps or on the floor, and just generally an overcrowded feeling.

    So whatever you do, make SURE there is more than enough seating for everybody!

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