Post # 1
So I kind of have a weird situation. My fiancé has 2 best men and in turn I picked a maid of honor and matron of honor. Unfortunately, my maid of honor lives in another country (I thought she would be back in the states by the time of the wedding) and my matron of honor lives 12 hours away(my sister). So all of the normal maid of honor duties have fallen on my other bridesmaids, specifically one who lives in the same town as me. She has planned and hosted my shower and bachelorette party, gone dress shopping with me, gone to tailor appointments, etc. I’m so grateful that she has stepped up but I don’t know the best way to honor and thank her. Should I make her a co-maid of honor? Get her a nice gift after the wedding? Allow her to do a speech? Give her a toast?
Anyone else in a similar situation or have any ideas?
Post # 3
Personally I don’t think being ‘promoted’ to Maid/Matron of Honor (which will give you three ‘of honors’… ) or ‘allow’ing her to do a speech is a great way to say thanks. I also think it’s inappropriate to give her a toast.
So…I vote gift. But a good, personal gift after the wedding. Or just take her to lunch and let her know how much you appreciate it.
Post # 4
@KristenGotMarried: Thanks Kristen. I know what you are saying about “promoting”. I don’t want it to be weird so I appreciate your feedback.
Post # 5
I also vote gift. She didn’t step up her game to be promoted — she did it because she loves you. So maybe think of something she really likes and make a gift basket. Or, plan a thank you lunch with her (just her) when you get back from your honeymoon . Just make a girls day of it =)
Post # 6
I agree with PPs about not “promoting” her. I think it would make your Maid/Matron of Honor feel bad that she could help with stuff. If you haven’t already, I would give her an extra gift and write her a very nice thank you. I’m guessing you’ll give a little thank you speech during the wedding so it might be nice to include her there. But I wouldn’t do a special toast just for her.
Post # 7
Thank you all for responding. I appreciate your feedback and I will definately plan a girls day lunch or something with her. I think I just needed some reassurance that I was doing enough. You guys rock!