(Closed) Assumed Bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Mersadies:  tell her you do not want to hurt her feelings but you are settled on other people as BMs. that there is equal number of Groomsmen and BMs and you talked with that with Fiance.

Post # 4
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mersadies:  Find a private time with her and just tell her.

” I need to tell you that I won’t be asking you to be a bridesmaid. I should have spoken up when you first mentioned it, but I didn’t want to embarass you in public. We are both having small wedding parties and I have chosen 3 girlfriends I have had since childhood. I am happy to tell people that I have scaled down the size of the wedding party if that will help you save face. I know you will understand that it’s just not possible to have everyone I would like to stand up with me.”

Post # 5
33 posts

@Mersadies:  I know the feeling well.  When SO and I got engaged we had picked out 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 4 Groomsmen.  SO’s friend sent a text saying “congrats on the engagement, I better be standing up there with you, when I get married you will be up there standing beside me, we are best mates blah blah blah” I was shocked that someone would have the nerve to flat out invite themself to be part of the bridal party.  SO felt terrible and said is there any way we can include him and you add a bridesmaid?  I said fine so now we have 5 of each, not ideal but it saved the whole having to disappoint a good friend.

I wish I had some advice to give you but as a pp said, just try and let her down gently and tell her that you are only using your very close childhood friends.  Good luck, I hope it all goes well.

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