Post # 1
An older cousin posted on my FB wall a while ago that she hoped that her and her husband were ‘not forgotten’ and invited to the wedding. I have met her ONCE, maybe 10 minutes and she never got out of the car. Her husband is actually my cousin and I barely know him, I know their kids more (they are around my age). So I didnt really say anything but then last night I got another FB wall post “I think our invitation got lost in the mail, here’s the address again, just incase *address inserted*”. I sent a private message back saying that we were sorry but we planned a wedding in a few months due to a health issue in the family (they know all about it) and we wanted that person (my dad) to be healthy. Due to it being so close our room options were limited as well as finances and we had to keep it very very small. I said I was very sorry and hoped they understood.
How do you handle these things? Inviting them was never in my mind, but I can’t say “are you serious??? I met you once and you didnt get out of the car!”. I mean I could have said that.. and I’m blunt enough that I would, but I’m not into making drama lol
Post # 3
That is super rude of them, but it is better to just nip those things in the bud early on and just let them know before they continue to blow up your facebook wall.
Post # 4
How rude. I think you handled it well.
Post # 5
Sounds like you handled it in a good way by sending a PM explaining the reason that you were not able to invite them. If you receive another wall message, change your settings on FB so that they can not post anything on your wall again. But, I would not respond if you receive another message or call regarding it. You have explained why they are not invited and I would leave it at that.
Post # 6
You are much better than me! I received a message similar to that from a distant cousin my mother’s age whom I hve never met. I just never responded. IDK how I’m going to deal with it when the times comes, but like you, I have no intention of sending her an invite. Ugh! The nerve of some ppl…
Post # 7
I was surprised, I would *never* even imagine asking!!! I mean really!! My Mom saw on my FB wall and sent me a text “hey your FB.. hahahaha!!!”. I never even considered these people. Her son and I are not ‘close’ but we do talk here and there. I wasnt invited to his wedding. Seriously, the nerve of some. I’m waiting to see if she either replies or unfriends me lol
Post # 8
That desevers the Stephanie Tanner “How Rude!”
Post # 9
@Ms.VW: LOL Yes, it does!
I think you handled it perfectly. That was incredibly rude of her (especially to write you TWICE).
Just out of curiosity, please let us know if she responds…
Post # 10
I cannot believe that someone is really this rude! Wow! Sounds like you handled it very well. I’m not sure what I would have done.
Post # 11
@Ms Bookworm: I’ll let you know if she says anything. She probably will lol
Post # 12
I think some of the time people just say it knowing that they wouldn’t be invited. This girl said to me “Don’t forget my invite” but I think in her case she was just saying it. She had no idea who I was engaged to and she’s like the town whore and I don’t even know her last name.
In your case I think they really want and invitation. Unless you are married or have helped someone plan a wedding you really don’t know how expensive it is. It’s crazy
Post # 13
@mrsjjohnson2b: I think you’re right. People have no clue at all unless they’ve actually planned. I thought it was just something she meant jokingly at first , then I got that second message and she was really asking about her invite.