(Closed) Assuming engagement is over..follow up 3

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@anonconfused:  I’m so sorry that this has happened to you. I hope you can move on from this and find happiness with someone who actually deserves you.

Post # 21
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522 posts
Busy bee

@anonconfused:  I think you need to delete his number!

Seriously, this guy treated you like absolute shit and I just am so angry at him for you!

I cannot believe he was so cowardly that he wouldn’t talk to you in person and tell you it was over.

Sell the ring and buy yourself something amazing with it, a spa day or a new purse or a killer pair of heels that you will wear out with your girlfriends.

Huge hugs and all the sympathy in the world!

Post # 22
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry this happened to you. *hugs* If you need a song to listen to (it makes me feel better), listen to Best Thing I Never Had by Beyonce. 

ETA: He’s an ahole and a dick and you deserve sooo much better. It’ll take time to hate him more and move on, but you will. 

 

Post # 23
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1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@anonconfused:  I’m sorry things worked out this way.  I can’t believe he couldn’t even face the truth and apologize!  And then to turn the situation around and try to place the blame on you for things?  That’s insane!!  Listen, you are soooo much better off without him.  You don’t need  someone who treats you like this.  You deserve better!!

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

So sorry that you are going through this. You can get through it but I know this moment, this week, this month it won’t feel like it. But little by little you will get yourself back.

 

As far as ‘wasting’ the relationship or not knowing him for 6 years…people change all the time. All our lives we will keep surprising ourselves with the choices we make or the situations we find ourselves in or the things we overcome. Perhaps he has changed over the time you’ve known him, perhaps he really didn’t mean to make the choice he has. Either way people are grey areas, not black/white certainties. Don’t judge the relationship too harshly. 

It sounds like your job is incredibly stressful. I hope you have support around you at this time. 

Post # 26
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 I feel betrayed in the most extreme way possible. That I guess I never knew him, after 6 years he was a stranger capable of pain I could never fathom. I know I am mourning something that was never there, which makes it even harder.

@anonconfused:  This statement made me feel tragically sad… I have known this feeling and I’m so sorry you must go through it. It is something most cannot fathom..unless you’re living it. Please hang in there and know that we are pulling for you and sending you strength to walk away from this horrible situation with sanity, decency, and a level of high respect for yourself. The only advice I can offer you is to simply love yourself… it’s amazing how powerful that can be. 

Post # 27
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@anonconfused:  your cat is a much better companion than either him or his new gf.  You can be sure of that.

You’ll get through this, and you’ll come out stronger.  I promise.

Post # 30
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@anonconfused:  Cats are super awesome.  They’re great little cuddlers.  You’ll be just fine – and better than fine in no time.  You’re better off now than you were not knowing and thinking everything was roses.  You’ll find someone who’s right for you, and who would never do what this jerk has.  And when you do, you’ll wonder why you spent so much time crying over an asshole!

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@anonconfused:  I am so sorry that this happened to you, but please know that it sounds like something is just wrong with him. He is immature and selfish, and I am so glad that you chose not to stand for it anymore. You made the right choice, and it will get easier. You will find someone who will make you forget about that loser!

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