(Closed) Assuming engagement is over..follow up 3

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

All change is good change. You won’t feel that way now but someday you will look back and clearly see him for who he is.

We’ve all been through this type of situation at one time or another; I know I have my own stories of heartbreak. But these experiences are leading you to a place of knowledge, acceptance and understanding and those are wonderful places to be.

When you finally do meet that wonderful man you’ll be able to see just “how” wonderful he is because of how un-wonderful your ex Fiance was. We can only appreciate something fully when we’ve experienced the opposite of it first.

Post # 48
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5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@anonconfused:  Are you talking about the email with just the old picture and X? He sent it because he wanted to see if he still had you on the hook. SOmething isnt going right with the whore, or he was drunk or bored or horny, so he reached out to you. 

Post # 50
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@anonconfused:  The right man will support you in your career, not let it interfere with your relationship. I am a physician and my husband moved with me TWICE because I had to go to different states for my internship and residency. I promise you there are decent men out there who will be proud of you for doing well in your career and will stay by your side for it. 

Post # 51
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@anonconfused:  honestly let go the rage at her. It is not her that has done this to you. She owes you nothing. It is him who has hurt you and chosen to treat you like this. Leave her out of it. 

 

 

 

I think you need to start doing one little thing each day for yourself if you can. Just to start giving you little things to smile at/look forward to/distract yourself. Go to a nice place for a coffee, buy yourself some new clothes, if you’re at work for the day make a real effort to talk to someone new who you wouldn’t normally talk to etc. You need other things or people in your life right now.

 

Also…get off the computer and away from Facebook. No good will come of it. You will just feel sad and lonely and imagine things that may not be happening. Big hugs, it is such an awful time but in a year or so you will realise he is a fool and you are better off. 

 

Post # 53
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1462 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@anonconfused:  I know that you’re trying to deal with the pain by finding answers for why he cheated, e.g. he has some kind of personality disorder.  But you’re not going to move on until you accept that he did it and that it’s over.  It doesn’t matter why or how.  He’s obviously not interested in reconciling and he is happily going around with this other woman now.  He isn’t worth your time, or even your thoughts on whether he has mental issues.

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