(Closed) Assuming thin people have an eating disorder isn’t a good reason to yell at them

posted 7 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thanks for sharing. We have had some great discussions here in the Hive about weight and issues with naturally thin women and the pressures, and problems they face today in society!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

@Orion: Wow, that’s completely unacceptable. Kudos for keeping your cool!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Women come in all shapes and sizes and are all beautiful for their unique figures, and no one has any right to decide one shape or size is “wrong” and start a crusade against it. That’s just weird.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In high school I was 5’5″ and around 105.  One time in homeroom I was eating a bagel and a girl that I was actually somewhat friendly with called me out in front of the whole class “oh, wow, you actually eat?”  That comment has always stuck with me for some reason.  I don’t know why people think it is ok to make fun of someone for being skinny, but not for being overweight.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Aure: Agreed. 

I’ve heard my fair share of those comments as well. None from friends, though, because they are with me when I eat (all the time!). My metabolism is just really fast yet. But for a stranger to come and rip you up and down?! Good for you for being restrained.

Does she think that this would have even helped someone who did have an issue? “Oh, random B*@&% yelled at me, maybe I should work on this disorder that I have.” WTF?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I try to stay away from the posts on the bees where they post models and say how much better clothes/dresses look on “real people”. But the models ARE real people. And a lot of times they aren’t unhealthy, they work out and eat well like most of us! Alessandra Ambrosio is one of my favorite models, she looks great, but eats well and works out. 

I think it’s just as rude that thin women receive discrimination as it is for overweight ladies to be made fun of.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so sorry you had to go through this! What kind of random stranger just walks up to another person and makes horrible comments. This is truely terrible.

I used to get similar comments in high school because I was very thin. I am not in that situation anymore (gee thanks birth control pills!) but it was always uncomfortable so I know how you feel (a little, anyway).

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@miss-spunkin:

dude – THANK YOU.  I always cringe when I see that in the threads but always opt not to say anything because I know its just bound to cause drama.  I’m a stick. Its how I was made. Its how I’ve ALWAYS been. Sometimes I wish I could gain weight so I could have a little more in the boob or butt department, and sometimes I wish I gained a bit of weight because it makes me feel awkward when people comment on how thin I am (why is it totally socially appropriate to say “omg you’re sooo skinny!” but “omg you’re huge!” is horribly offensive?)

I really don’t appreciate hearing how models who are also sticks like me are “fake/photoshopped/anorexic/on drugs” etc.  Are there some models who fall in to those categories?  Sure. But making that assumption is JUST as rude as someone assuming  a heavy girl sits at home in front of the TV with a family size bag of Doritos and coke.  No difference  – an assumption is an assumption. 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

That is unacceptable what she did to you. And it would be unacceptable for her to do it to someone who really had an eating disorder too. True anorexics/bulimics, etc dont need our judgement, they need our love and help- it isnt like they asked to have the eating disorder.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

@Orion: That’s great that your mum conquered it! I have been a recovering anorexic for the last 2 years or so, so I know how hard it is to overcome. And yes, assuming “thispiration” things about you without even knowing you is completely rude. Good on you for standing up to her.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am overweight and I HATE it when other heavy women in my company say negative things about thin women.

Everybody is different. Everybody can be beautiful. Our bodies are our own.

 

I’m sorry you were made to feel lousy for who you are!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It blows my mind that people would actually go up to a stranger and say something like that! I would never go up to woman and comment on her weight, or even think about doing so…well except for telling someone I hadn’t seen in 5 years and who had lost a lot of weight that she looked amazing. I remember in high school over hearing my cheerleading coach talking about how someone asked her if I had an eating disorder, I was definitely upset. I had to laugh when I heard her response, she said she told the other adult to shut up if they don’t know what they are saying and that “no one on the team loves food, or eats more of it” than I do! Haha, it was true. I have always ate alot of food but I have also always been very active and had a faster metabolism. Anyway, you know what they say about people who assume…Smile

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