(Closed) Assuming you’re giving cash, how much would you give to a ___ (for the wedding)?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would you give for a ____?
    Close relative: $0-99 : (56 votes)
    11 %
    Close Relative: $100-249 : (119 votes)
    22 %
    Close Relative: $250-499 : (56 votes)
    11 %
    Close Relative: $500+ : (18 votes)
    3 %
    Distant Relative: $0-99 : (126 votes)
    24 %
    Distant Relative: $100-249 : (84 votes)
    16 %
    Distant Relative: $250-499 : (7 votes)
    1 %
    Distant Relative: $500+ : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Close Friend: $0-99 : (62 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 4
    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My answers are based on both my Fiance and I attending the wedding.

    Close Relative – well the only close relative I have is my sister (my only two cousins live in Germany and have my whole life so we aren’t really close) so probably around $500.

    Distant Relative – I don’t really like many of my “distant” relatives so I would probably give 150.

    Close Friend – Probably 250 – 300. Gonna cross that bridge this summer when 4 of my closest friends get married (eeks!)

    Distant Friend – Probably 100-150.

    Post # 5
    1014 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We don’t have much disposable income, so unfortunately we can’t be as generous as we would like to be.  Although I’d say we definitely give within the average for our family/friends.  Usually we gift between $75-$100 regardless of the closeness of the relationship.  For our own wedding, the vast majority of the gifts were around the $50 mark, but we also had a few very very very generous friends and family who gave much more.

    Post # 6
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Honestly for me I think I would give a close family member less (100-150) than a good friend. In my circle of friends we are all recent grads, and therefore have pretty much zero extra money, where as my family is all older and more established. My two sisters are 18 so they have a few years to wed, but once they do I also will do about $500. FI’s brother, who we are close to, is getting married (to a woman I hate) and we are refusing to give them money because they are asking for it and would honestly just judge the amount and not be at all grateful. Instead we are giving them an experience like tickets to a sporting event that is according to her words “too rich for her blood” because we think they should be able to do something nice at least once in their life.

    I really think it depends on the dynamic of the family or friend relationship, and where you are financially

    Post # 7
    532 posts
    Busy bee

    Would the gift amount be for just me, or me and my SO together?

    Post # 8
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    A “Close Relative” is your sibling, parent, child ect.
    if its my nephews (i have 5 of them) its $2K (which we have done for 2 of them so far). 
    if its my niece starting at $10K but the longer she is single the more becasue i have a bank account for her. 
    our siblings/parents are already married/no divorces in our families 

    A “Distant Relative” is your cousin….

    A “Close Friend” is a member of your closest circle of friends
    $200 to $500

    A “Distant Friend”

    Post # 8
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I try to cover my plate whenever possible but it really depends on what I can afford. Average would be…

    • Close relative (sibling) – $250-$300 
    • Close relative (child) – Much more than $500
    • Close relative (parent) – I guess $250-$300 but I think it would be weird to gift my parent with cash.
    • Distant relative – $150-$200
    • Close friend – $150-$200
    • Distant friend- $100

    *this is assuming Darling Husband and I are both attending.

    Post # 9
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Same for everyone – ~$100. That’s what we can afford right now!

    Post # 10
    1014 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wish you all had been invited to my wedding!!! Kidding!!! Kinda… you’re all very very generous. 🙂

    Post # 11
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2007

    We usually give ~$120-150 to friends and distant relatives.  We gave $1000 to my sister in law when she got married.

    Post # 12
    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would like to have a vow renewal- and all you generous bees are invited for sure 😉


    Close relative- Ie sibling etc- $200 or so, anyone else about $100. Makes us seem stingy, but in Australia that seems about average.


    Post # 13
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We’re both still relatively young and I’m finishing up school right now, but I’ve found the bee to be, on the whole, either 1- more generous than my particular family, or 2- more generous than my area in general.

    Not sure if it’s a small/rural midwest thing, but Mr.ND and I were blown away by the $100 check we received from someone. People our age generally gift about $30-$50, and older, more established couples/families generally gift around $50-100. I would gift more to a close friend/relative than to ‘that guy you used to know from that summer softball league you were in,’ but all within the $30-$75 range for now.

    Post # 14
    3305 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would give at least $100 to at most $150, same for everyone.

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