Post # 1
If you’re going to elope at a destination and not invinting guests, are you doing an at-home reception aka celebration party? What is it like? Catered? Venue? At home? Burgers on the grill?
I’ve been asked if we’re going to do this if we do decide to elope. I am not sure.
I’d like to save money, but I’d also like to celebrate with others at some point. Our families haven’t met yet, and the wedding would have been the first time they would have met, as well as so many of our friends who moved away.
But the party would not be formal or anything. Not sure if people would even fly in for a party you know? It’s a hefty expense to get airline tickets, a rental car and hotels. If it were in the winter then at least people could ski and get a vacation out of it, even for a weekend. A casual party alsmost doesn’t warrant all that expense to fly out.
Maybe it’ll be just immediate family so they can all meet, then some local friends. I don’t know. Not sure if I even want to go through planning a party all over again, but I really want to get my families to meet (this is after my dad passes, so they won’t meet him sadly).
Post # 3
We haven’t done any planning yet, but it looks like we will do a private elopment and an at-home reception. Our families haven’t met yet, either. I think we would do an informal (but somewhat dressy) catered dinner with drinks, cake and music on the ipod with maybe 25 people. I expect that only my parents and siblings would travel to attend.
Post # 4
I have friends who are having a very small ceremony and then having an at-home reception in their parents backyard the next day. She’s wearing her dress and they will have it catered and get a tent, etc. So, at-home, but not completely informal.
Post # 5
@the boss of you: You are the first person I’ve meet on forums whose families have never met either!
Post # 6
I was planning a reception at home about 6 weeks after the elopment (everyone knows about it), but when my numbers got to 100+ and friends and family planned on flying out, I decided it was too much and getting too big. I had planned on having it at a venue and catered. I decided to think it over for a month and then decide. Wedding in September 2012.
Post # 7
Huh, so Fiance surprised me when he said he still would like a reception and for us to have it in our backyard (we already talked about our yard as a venue like a year ago!)
Anyway, he’d still invite the original list (let them fly in if they want to) and invite more local people, then our families can meet. I’d get it caterer, but something like Costa Vida or Cafe Rio (fairly inexpensive).
Anyway, that’s probably a long ways off!