Post # 1
I am having and at home reception after my Destination Wedding. I could either go one of two ways —
1. Super casual BBQ, no decorations, just food and chatter. Kind of a “come and go as you please…”
2. Still BBQ type food and still somewhat casual (as far as everyone’s attire goes) but also having a dance floor + dj or ipod dj with prof. lights (do you think people will want to dance even if they aren’t dressed up??), professional photographer (to get photos of our guests…? I really just want to use a photographer friend who will do it for free so I want an excuse to have something fun for her to photograph..She is AMAZING!), nice linens and but minimal centerpieces on tables, cupcake stand, fireworks, full bar with yummy cocktails (probably would hire a bartender), etc, etc. More of what you’d expect with a “real wedding reception” minus the fact that we weren’t just married two hours before, y’know?
Both would be at my house (huge farm, with a beautiful lake)
I would not wear my wedding dress in either situation.. probably a nice white dress though. Our dog would wear a suit 🙂
Which is more expected when you have an “at home reception” after a destination wedding?? I don’t want peopel to feel like we were excessive about it.. I also don’t want people to come expecting one thing (casual backyard bbq) and it’s more of a wedding reception? Make sense?
Post # 3
Could you combine the two, but not have fireworks, dance floor and dj? Do you really want pro photos of your guests?
We had a formal morning wedding, brunch reception and then invited everyone back to our place for a catered dinner and stocked our fridge full of beer. We had such a great time at our place, being able to be “casual” and I think our guests really appreciated that too.
Post # 4
Fireworks are not something I care for but fiances dad ALWAYS has fireworks at every party he is involved so it’s a given. It would be free as far as I’m concerned because he would be paying it.
I think I may scratch the DJ but go with iPod music and an “area to dance” but not really a dance floor? I think music would be good for ambiance.
And the professional photographer is more of a friend but she does amazing work and I couldn’t use her for my Destination Wedding. So I’m just looking for another opprotunity to use her. She would be free.
Post # 5
Also it would be for 75-100 people.
Post # 6
I guess it depends on if you think your guests will enjoy a dancefloor/dj. If not, I would definitely skip that but maybe just set up the iPod like you said. I can’t imagine myself dancing at a casual-ish backyard bbq, but that’s just me!
Post # 7
My cousin got married in Europe, then had a reception in the US for those of us that didn’t maek the trip. She only had a ceremony in Europe, but otherwise had a complete reception at both. Including centerpieces, a band, photographer, wedding dress, suits speeches and all. Do whichever you prefer.
Post # 8
I think it would be nice to have a “reception” style backyard BBQ after the Destination Wedding. If your guest like to dance, by all means go for it! It can still be casual but fun to party for those that couldn’t make it to the nuptials.
I like the iPod idea either way, so there can be some background music while people talk, or party music to get things going!
Sound like fun. Let us know what you decide.
Post # 9
I would do the more casual route. Personally, I don’t like the idea of a huge formal reception post DW; I can’t put my finger on why, but it doesn’t sit right with me. That being said, I think you can incorporate aspects of both – there’s no reason you can’t have a dance floor and great music going in a casual reception!
Post # 10
We decided to go more casual…. Nice linens and but no centerpieces, we already have a huge covered patio (like, we could fit 120 people under it) but we will rent a medium size open tent for the grassy area off to the side and have more seating for people to hang out at, not nec. in the dining area) We will not do a dance floor as of yet, but if we do, it’ll be under this extra tent.
The jury is still out on the bartender but I love cocktails and am leaning towards having someone come out and having a whole bar set-up. Tempting.. This would be under the extra tent.
We are not doing a dj, just an iPod. We will also do twinkle lights and maybe paper lanterns… You know, that kinda casual backyard idea.
We will do fireworks.
We are going to do casual BBQ food (homemade: smoked, grilled, baked, bbq meats), some catered sides (potato salad, pasta salads, cole slaws, veggies etc) Homemade fresh green salad, and gourmet cupcakes! mmm! Other food as well but this is just the idea.
As of right now I have decided to skip the photography but will think about adding it if more of MY family comes from out of town (they are all going to the real wedding so I didn’t expect them to come to this as well but they have expressed interest.)
Thanks for your input everyone! This is the cheapest way to do it and I’m really happy with how it’s coming together.. I don’t think it’s best to go the fancy route.
Post # 11
TO – S2013: Looks like I am late to the game (thanks for the UPDATE)
Your Back Home Reception sounds wonderful.
I just wanted to say for any other Brides who may be reading this topic… the great thing about Back Home Receptions after an Elopment / Destination Wedding is THERE ARE NO RULES
One can make the Reception / Party as BIG or small / Formal or Informal as one wishes. Wear one’s Wedding Attire or not. Sit Down Meal, or just Cake & Champagne… DJ & Dancing or not. Include Traditions like the Bouquet Toss or Garter Throw… THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG. Anything goes.
Mr TTR & I are Eloping to a Destination Wedding… and we’ll have a Back Home Reception later on. I am really looking forward to it, because it should be an awesome party that is really fun for our friends & family and hilights our relationship
Hope this helps,
Post # 12
We had a proper reception at a restaurant, 2 weeks after our destination wedding. Had the prof photog who captured really beautiful photos. We did centrepieces, cake display, favours, the whole shebang but it was by no means a ‘formal affair’. There were definitely no fireworks just a normal wedding reception.
If you want fireworks, have fireworks. Like PP says, there are no rules! Enjoy it 🙂