(Closed) At home reception, what would you expect?

posted 11 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Here are my thoughts:


If you got an invite to this party would you expect/want to see:

  • A Renewal Ceremony or Marriage Blessing Ceremony?

Yes, something along those lines.  Although it’s not necessary.

  • Cake cutting?

If you like, but I think a dessert table would be very cute with cupcakes?  That way no one has to be in the kitchen afterwards cutting up the cake into cute slices.

  • Wedding party making toasts?

Why not?  I think it’s fun for people to express their well wishes on your marriage.

  • First dance?

If you don’t like the formality of a first dance, and there will be no dancing then not necessary.  If there will be dancing but you dont’ like the formality of a first dance you should atleast lead the first dance by picking the song and starting the dancing.  You can ask close friends and family to be prepared to join you and your new SO soon after you start, so everyone knows it’s ok to dance too.

  • Wedding highlights video (5 minutes or less)?

Not necessary, this would be a personal choice you and your SO would need to make.

  • Sit down dinner or cocktail style wander and eat? (We are having tapas, variety of mini desserts and drinks.)

Your idea of tapas is great.  You can also have a table with various salads, cheeses and rolls for light eating.

  • Dancing/dance floor?

Depends if there will be dancing.  Is there a patio that is flat/smooth which will allow people to dance, if you plan on having dancing?

  • Formal, semi-formal, casual?

Unless you are having a white-gloved caterer people will not be expecting formal.  semi-formal (possibly), casual probably.  Most people will derive the clues from your invitation.  I would put a note at the bottom that says cocktail reception or cocktails/tapas will be served.

 This wedding sounds fun!  You should post some pictures when it’s all over.  Good luck with your planning.

Post # 4
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

We are having a casual "Toast the Newlyweds" event in a couple of months.  Along with everyone having fun, my main thoughts are to have a:


  • slideshow type thing with wedding images.  This will only be playing in the background, not something that they will be forced to watch…almost like decoration
  • toasts – for sure!  If your family and friends that were at the wedding are also at this reception, I am sure your guests would love to hear their tales from the wedding
  • Dancing is always a plus in my book  We’re not setting up a stage or anything, it’s probably just something that will happen naturally.  We won’t do a first dance, though.

Main goal?  Celebrating & having fun with family & friends who couldn’t come to the DW! 


Post # 5
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

  • A Renewal Ceremony or Marriage Blessing Ceremony? Something to acknowledge the officialness of the occasion.  I would think this would be short and sweet.
  • Cake cutting?  Yep.
  • Wedding party making toasts?  Uh huh.
  • First dance?  I would think this optional.
  • Wedding highlights video (5 minutes or less)?  Certainly not.  I personally don’t care for these, but I would not expect it in this circumstance.
  • Sit down dinner or cocktail style wander and eat? (We are having tapas, variety of mini desserts and drinks.)  Cocktails or buffet, not sit down.
  • Dancing/dance floor?  Optional.
  • Formal, semi-formal, casual? Semi-formal.

Post # 6
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My Fiance cousin just had an “at home reception” after being married in Florida and they did the whole shabang which as a guest who could not attend the Florida wedding loved! Only thing they did not redo was the exchange of vows/renewal of vows.

I would so a semi-formal cocktail style reception with tons of good music and dancing but this is your wedding and if you want to have a formal sit-down dinner and complete ceremony then go for it!

Post # 7
2680 posts
Sugar bee

I think I would want to see maybe highlights from the wedding and a vow renewal along with some light food and dancing.  Everything else would be nice but I would not expect it since it appears you are having the party about 9 months later.  I think it sounds like a fun time to see all your family and friends and re-celebrate with them 🙂

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