- 9 years ago
hello, bees! this is my first thread on here, and it will be a long one, so lemme start by introducing a bit about me and my boyfriend:
we have been dating for a little less than 2 and a half years. we are both college students entering our senior year, so we will be graduating in the spring. after spending most of last summer apart from him, i came back to school with the realization that he is absolutely, 100% the one for me. and that instantly ratcheted up my girl levels from 10 to 1,000. i was never the type of girl to imagine her own wedding, marriage, etc in vivid detail, but suddenly that’s what i found myself doing.
as of this summer, i started feeling added pressure in regards to our future from my parents and other people. i visited boyfriend recently, and upon coming home, my mom wanted to know if i was engaged yet. (<and that seriously threw me for a loop!)
thinking about all this logically, i know engagement can’t be close by. neither of us are financially independent yet, and BF won’t have any sort of money to speak of until december. and then that money will be going towards a very important trip he’ll need to make in february/march (it will probably be around our anniversary :c) to network for job opportunities. i have told BF that if he were to propose, he could use a ring pop for all i’d care, but i don’t think he feels up for that idea. he seems very adamant on getting me “things.” however i do know that after graduation, we hope to be able to find jobs nearby each other, possibly cohabiting. personally, i would prefer to be at least engaged before living together.
so after much agonizing and stalking forums here on the bee, i finally made boyfriend talk to me about concrete future plans. and i was very pleasantly surprised to find that he had been thinking about the whole shebang, marriage and all. i asked him how many years he thought we were away from that, and he answered, “a couple.” now THAT was excellent news! i had been under the impression (from a much early conversation) that he wouldn’t even consider marriage until he had “all his ducks in a row,” which most likely won’t be for another 5 or 6 years.
AND to top it all off, last night he mentioned a surprise he has for me that he can’t tell me anything about except that it is exciting and i won’t get it for some time, which is actually terribly cruel considering how impatient he knows i am. so who knows if that conversation was linked with our previous one, but it looks like i could be waiting a while to find out. XD
in the end, i’m just really happy to think that maybe there is a tiny glimmer of hope that perhaps i could be engaged around graduation time with a new job ready to start, and for me, that would be having all my ducks in a row. we’ll see! thanks for making it through my rant. 🙂