(Closed) At some point every bride gets overwhelmed…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel ya.  I’ve been so stressed lately, I break into tears at the slightest thing (and I’m not a cryer, either).  It’s the wedding planning… it really is hard.  Harder than I thought it would be.

I also get the FI-not-helping thing.  On the one hand, I’m also a type A personality, and I like to do things MY way… but on the other hand, there are some things that I have needed FI’s input on and some things Fiance has decided to give input on whether or not I needed it.  That can be difficult too.

What’s been helping me is keeping the end goal in mind- the fact that I get to marry my fiance, the love of my life, and that the wedding will ultimately be one of the best days of my life, no matter what happens.  Ultimately, if things are the wrong color, the food is bad, or if it rains, it won’t matter… it’ll all be memories for years down the road when we’re sitting in rocking chairs, sipping lemonade, having the time of our lives with the loves of our lives.

 

HUGS from one stressed bride to another.  We will get through this

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I hear you. I can’t wait for the wedding to be over. It’s too much added stress.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m Type A with OCD/panic disorder. Mr. Tattoo just nods and smiles. He only wants control of his groomsmens attire and soem say in some things. Other than that, he wouldn’t care if people were sitting on milk crates.

To not have full blown panic attacks, I have decided that we can’t talk about wedding every day. We have devoted one day a week to being unplugged. No cell phones, no TV, no internet, no wedding talk, nothing. Nothing gets scheduled on that day. Things can wait. Your wedding won’t be in ruin for putting off a call for a day.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sometimes life is hard, and our guys can’t fix everything 🙁  But, perhaps you can get together for lunch with your BFF, or if you have some money, get a massage, or for less money a mani and/or a pedi, or diy facial or something to make yourself feel good.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can 100% relate to your post, in fact it feels like you are in my head!

I am Type A as well and my Fiance is finishing up his Masters this week, thus he has been busy/procrastinating on his papers.  However, I also need him to do things, like help finalize the guest list and figure out a time to go and get rings and all of the other things you had listed.

I am also wishing away the days until the wedding, which I don’t want to do, I want to try and enjoy some of these moments, but at a certain point it feels like a big weight on my shoulders. 

To my FI’s credit he has tried to understand, but I don’t think guys ever fully get it!  We are just trying to enjoy the little moments when we can and I have decided when I need to cry I just will because letting it bubble up only tends to do more damage!

Hang in there, you have plenty of company!

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