Post # 1
Hello Bees, I just need to vent. Fiance and I have been sick with a nasty flu which turned into bronchitis (idk how). It was bad! Well… fiance lost his job because he hasn’t been in to work for three weeks. He doesn’t have sick days and he only had two weeks of vacation. What are we going to do???? I don’t have a job because he convinced me to quit so I could concentrate on school. He was making more than enough for both of us. I’m scared. I have no idea what I’m going to do. And now applying to jobs begins. i’m scared to tell my parents because not only are they hurting for money but they will be very angry. I’m so scatterbrained right now and I’m too embaressed to tell anybody what’s going on. I just needed to let that all out before I cry my eyes out.
Post # 3
@RobandLil0107: I think Cali is one of the few states without “at will” employment… there might be some legal options here if the only reason why they fired him was because he was too ill to come to work. Can anyone confirm this?
Sorry you are going through this, I hope it works out.
Post # 4
Whoa, what a slew of bad luck, I’m sorry to hear that. Hopefully you’re both healthy again now?
If FI’s job would fire him for being sick for 3 weeks, it sounds like a lousy employer and good riddance from your lives (in the long run). Now is his and/or your opportunity to find a better way to bring money into your family. You may eventually end up looking back at this moment as a blessing in disguise. Not that it feels that way right now, of course.
There’s nothing wrong with having a good cry. Sometimes it can help you think clearer after.
Post # 5
Fiance is out of work and I’m pretty low-income, so I understand your fears. Take a deep breath–you’ll be okay, and you’ll get through it. Fiance and I have a joke that our vows will say “for poorer and for poorest” instead of richer or poorer, haha. But the point is that we’ll be confident that we can get through struggles–you and your Fiance will, too.
Since you are in school, finding a job yourself might not be the first priority. What do your expenses look like? Could you get by on a lower income for a bit? If so, your Fiance might start applying to retail jobs since the holidays are coming up and continue to search for something in his field. That will take some of the pressure off.
Best of luck–it will be okay.
Post # 6
Can you get records from the doc to prove that he really was sick?
Post # 7
With the proper documentation, he should be able to get unemployment, depending on what state you live in. I was once fired because my daughter was in Intensive Care and I refused to leave her side. The state awarded me unemployment as they said I was fired unjustly.
Post # 8
And I just lost my job because I refused to move to the city they are in (long time ago, it wasn’t like they asked then fired me) – so I understand how you may be feeling right now because I was bringing in almost double what Mr. O does. Just keep your head on straight and remember that everything WILL work out.
Post # 9
Thank you all for your work. Let me explain something about FI’s unfair jerk company. They wont directly fire him because that will cause them to HAVE to give him unemployment. However, they will lower his wages to minimum wage and send him to work 2-3 hours away until he himself quits. Its not something we can afford. Our financials can be played with for a little while but when Fiance was young and stupid (his words) he bought a sportscar with an outrageious payment. He owes more than the car is worth. And for me to get any help… well since I dont have a kid all i could get was medical (that was before i moved in with FI) I’m not sure that anything would change.
The other thing about his job is his manager was supposed to report that he was sick. Fiance kept in touch with him the first two weeks. the third week we were both so ill and I didn’t have a voice so we didnt call his job. They knew he would be out that week. Because of this his manager didn’t report him to headquarters and even if he can get his records it wouldn’t do much because it looks like a no-call no-show.
Post # 10
Go over the manager’s head and give them a letter from your doctor. They can’t fire him or reduce his pay without consulting him first, surely? Get some paperwork to back up your position and if they won’t budge, tell them that you’ll be contacting a lawyer.
Post # 11
@anothersmith: I wish but the contract they had all the workers sign when they first got hired indicates they CAN do this. They can be relocated whenever.
Post # 12
@RobandLil0107: Well it doesn’t sound like his company was really appreciating him anyways. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise and he’ll be able to get something that treats him a little better. Best of luck to you both!
Post # 13
People can survive on very little – I lived on minimum for a few years. Just cut out all unnecessary expenses and apply for jobs like mad – I mean like 10+ a day – you’l have something in a week or two
Post # 14
Surely a job is better than no job? Couldn’t he stay with this job while looking for another so you aren’t without income completely? I’m confused as to if he quit or not?
Post # 15
Sorry for your troubles, but being sick and gone from work for three weeks is excessive and there must be documentation from a doctor to make a case of any kind for recovering full employment. 3 weeks is a long time to be gone from work unless there was a hospitalization involved and I’m thinking he should have dragged himself into work at somew point to keep the job. I don’t say this lightly…I was married for 25 years to a man who never missed more than 4 days of work at a time due to illness and my current Darling Husband has MS and has worked for a company for nearly 15 years without ever missing more than a few days for any kind of illness. I have a friend who is a recent breast cancer suvivor and she dragged herself to her teaching job even when she had mono. I returned to work one week after having the flu which laid me low with a high fever for 5 days. I’ve never known anyone who has lost 3 weeks of work to sickness without being hospitalized.
Post # 16
I live around the Sacramento area and I used to work as a manager for Safeway. That’s a good place to apply to because they’re almost always hiring and if you work in a department like bakery deli or seafood, you’ll probably be guaranteed 24 hours of work per week. It’s also ridiculously easy to get promoted and promotions in departments like those almost double your wages.
Also I think Costco and retail stores (try Arden Fair mall) are hiring for holiday help. A long time ago my Fiance was hired around this time of year at Costco and they kept him after the holidays; it was a good job with benefits. And, I know In-N-Out Burger starts their wages at ~$10/hour which is pretty good. Dunno where you’re going to school but they have locations in Davis, West Sac, and all over Sac County I think.
Good luck and I’m sorry you’re going through this!