(Closed) At the end of my rope

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@RobandLil0107:  I think Cali is one of the few states without “at will” employment… there might be some legal options here if the only reason why they fired him was because he was too ill to come to work. Can anyone confirm this?

Sorry you are going through this, I hope it works out.

Post # 4
6359 posts
Bee Keeper

Whoa, what a slew of bad luck, I’m sorry to hear that. Hopefully you’re both healthy again now?

If FI’s job would fire him for being sick for 3 weeks, it sounds like a lousy employer and good riddance from your lives (in the long run). Now is his and/or your opportunity to find a better way to bring money into your family. You may eventually end up looking back at this moment as a blessing in disguise. Not that it feels that way right now, of course.

There’s nothing wrong with having a good cry. Sometimes it can help you think clearer after.

Post # 5
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fiance is out of work and I’m pretty low-income, so I understand your fears. Take a deep breath–you’ll be okay, and you’ll get through it. Fiance and I have a joke that our vows will say “for poorer and for poorest” instead of richer or poorer, haha. But the point is that we’ll be confident that we can get through struggles–you and your Fiance will, too.

Since you are in school, finding a job yourself might not be the first priority. What do your expenses look like? Could you get by on a lower income for a bit? If so, your Fiance might start applying to retail jobs since the holidays are coming up and continue to search for something in his field. That will take some of the pressure off.

Best of luck–it will be okay.

Post # 6
9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Can you get records from the doc to prove that he really was sick?

Post # 7
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

With the proper documentation, he should be able to get unemployment, depending on what state you live in. I was once fired because my daughter was in Intensive Care and I refused to leave her side. The state awarded me unemployment as they said I was fired unjustly.

Post # 8
986 posts
Busy bee

@trueblue14: +1.

And I just lost my job because I refused to move to the city they are in (long time ago, it wasn’t like they asked then fired me) – so I understand how you may be feeling right now because I was bringing in almost double what Mr. O does. Just keep your head on straight and remember that everything WILL work out.

Post # 10
511 posts
Busy bee

Go over the manager’s head and give them a letter from your doctor.  They can’t fire him or reduce his pay without consulting him first, surely?  Get some paperwork to back up your position and if they won’t budge, tell them that you’ll be contacting a lawyer.

Post # 12
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@RobandLil0107:  Well it doesn’t sound like his company was really appreciating him anyways.  Maybe this is a blessing in disguise and he’ll be able to get something that treats him a little better.  Best of luck to you both!

Post # 13
263 posts
Helper bee

People can survive on very little – I lived on minimum for a few years. Just cut out all unnecessary expenses and apply for jobs like mad – I mean like 10+ a day – you’l have something in a week or two

Post # 14
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Surely a job is better than no job? Couldn’t he stay with this job while looking for another so you aren’t without income completely? I’m confused as to if he quit or not?

Post # 15
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sorry for your troubles, but being sick and gone from work for three weeks is excessive and there must be documentation from a doctor to make a case of any kind for recovering full employment. 3 weeks is a long time to be gone from work unless there was a hospitalization involved and I’m thinking he should have dragged himself into work at somew point to keep the job.  I don’t say this lightly…I was married for 25 years to a man who never missed more than 4 days of work at a time due to illness and my current Darling Husband has MS and has worked for a company for nearly 15 years without ever missing more than a few days for any kind of illness. I have a friend who is a recent breast cancer suvivor and she dragged herself to her teaching job even when she had mono. I returned to work one week after having the flu which laid me low with a high fever for 5 days. I’ve never known anyone who has lost 3 weeks of work to sickness without being hospitalized.

Post # 16
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I live around the Sacramento area and I used to work as a manager for Safeway. That’s a good place to apply to because they’re almost always hiring and if you work in a department like  bakery deli or seafood, you’ll probably be guaranteed 24 hours of work per week. It’s also ridiculously easy to get promoted and promotions in departments like those almost double your wages. 

Also I think Costco and retail stores (try Arden Fair mall) are hiring for holiday help. A long time ago my Fiance was hired around this time of year at Costco and they kept him after the holidays; it was a good job with benefits. And, I know In-N-Out Burger starts their wages at ~$10/hour which is pretty good. Dunno where you’re going to school but they have locations in Davis, West Sac, and all over Sac County I think. 

Good luck and I’m sorry you’re going through this!

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